My partner wants me to be more active when we are having sex, but i get really embarressed because i dont know what to do. I try moving and getting a rythm going that feels good but i just cant seem to, everything i try just doesnt work, it gets my partner fustrated and thinking i dont want to have sex or that im not trying and i lose more confidence. please help me, any tips or advice is greatly appreciated!!! I want to be able to satify him without him having to do all the work.
2007-07-24 18:44:50 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should both talk about what you would like to try. Try renting some adult movies and get some ideas, I know most are fake, but you get the general idea. Of course, don't go for any unnatural things that people can do. If you love each other, then you'll be patient with each other and communicate your desires. Try simply asking him what he would like you to do. If he is a gentleman he won't mind explaining to you in a proper way.
I hope you sort it out together in a peaceable way.
2007-07-24 18:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Daz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do something that makes you feel comfortable. don't bend over backwards for some guy because he feels you don't satisfy him enough. he should be happy with whatever you do, even if it might suck, at least you're trying. and if you're getting embarrassed because you don't know what to do, talk to him. do it together, partnership. who cares what tips other people or websites give you, they're not having sex with you or him. not all people like the same thing. find out from your partner what he likes. play with him. do it together. find out new hot spots. experimenting can be the most fun sometimes. sex doesn't have to be like some game where there are 2 individual people, coming up with their own moves, by themselves, and they just get together and try to combine their own with their partners, and hope nothing clashes. it doesn't have to be "his rhythm" or "her rhythm", how bout . . . "our rhythm". don't keep it a 2 player game, make it 1.
2007-07-25 02:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more seductive or do something you've never done. Not postion or movement wise..Add a little flavor to the scene. Show him that you want it and that you wentan extra length to make it better.. Chocolate syrup is always a fun one, a different setting, find out his fetish, talk more during sex, there are so many things that you can do.. Without your confidience dropping to different levels...Watch porn... I know that sounds weird but you can find a lot of different things on that and on some sex sites..Be spontanous and go for it.
2007-07-25 01:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by bballplayer2408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jump on top. You have more control that way.
2007-07-25 01:48:30 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋