As an older man, what am I expected to offer to a younger woman in a relationship?

Question

I am Hispanic 42yo. divorced, no kids. I am attempting to date very attractive women between 25-35yo., but there seems to be a stigma on the age, and they consider me "too old". I am average looking (slim, not muscular), college educated, and have a job. I would like to have a family. What could I possibly concentrate on to offer a younger woman, to be of additional interest, since there is the age factor, and I am not a Brat Pitt... more like average Joe, and not rich.
I used to think that with a good job, good morals, no bad habits could be enough, but *hehehe*, does not seem to be the case. I also tend to argue that older men are more mature, more focused, more respectful, but it does not seem to cut it either =).

Answer 1

Well, I happen to know that there are younger women out there who actually LOOK for older guys to date. Some of them are in it because they're looking for the wrong things, but there are some who just prefer older men. Therefore, I think if women can choose to date older men, then men should have the same opportunity. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Just stick with it, you will find someone, if it's meant to be. Be patient, and let things come to you. It wouldn't hurt to get yourself out there though. Hang out places, just get out in general. Hang in there, and keep an open mind! Good luck!

Answer 2

Hey , well to your question , u have got to really delve deep into two things.

One , is what is your reason to specifically prefer a "younger" lady and ...

Two: is , what may be a reason of ladies using the "age difference" as their reason for not being interested.

Personally that could be a reason , but i am an 18 Y.O and engaged to a guy who is 27 , so age isnt really a problem ..

what u reall gotta look at and examine , is is it perhaps the fact that u r divorced that makes a woman feel .. maybe .. unsecure...

ill tell u now , all ladies love to feel secure , if that isnt present then most likely they would refuse even if the person is "perfect" ...

Perhaps u need to speak to these ladies ur interested in ... perhaps even focus on "one" for the moment , and try and c what good reasons r there that make u appreciate her so much that u would make her ur wife...

I guess a relationship such as marriage needs communication ,,, before u even consider marriage u need to sit with the one u admire and talk open and clear .

ask her if she is even willing to take this challenge of getting to know u at first..

if she shows interest , then that is a first step ticked for u!

from there , i would personally get to know her as much as i possibly could and let her get to know me on the same scale..

that is the most important stage in a pre- relationship ... so if u pass it with success , ur gauranteed to get what u want...

But it isnt an exam either , u two must act yourselves and be prepared to answer questions that might cross her mind , such as why are u seeking a younger lady like myself ... if u r faced with such question , ur answer must be planned ...

and thats why i asked u earlier to ask urself of why ur considering "younger aged women" ...

Be honest and clear , and make ur intention clear too , perhaps its because u need a younger woman to make u live ur age as a younger spirited man once more .. or it can b bcoz u simply admire her for who she is , that age didnt cross ur mind.,..

But dont tell any woman i am ONLY looking for younger women , coz that restriction would make them infer that u dnt want them for them but to solely b with a young lady..

Be careful .. and personally i dnt see age as a measure to respect and maturitiy , ... so be careful not to give that as a reason...

an 18 yr old can still be very respectful and mature ..

a good reason would be , the older men , the more stable , and settled in life , and gaurantee a financially well lifestyle as well as a focused way of thinking and decision making..

women analyze answers , so if u are asked , plan what u will say and be ready to Honestly mean it! Honesty shines through! and a lady can admire u for that and increase that chance of admiration back!

Goodluck ,

Dina

Answer 3

To be quite frank. Women who are with older men have only one thing in mind. MONEY.
Look at Hue Hefner. The girls next door. Have you ever watch that show. The playboy mansion. The (rich old guy)
He has three beautiful women. Their all beautiful and young.
What do you think? Thinks its for the good looks?
Anyway, When you meet someone it doesn't matter what age they are. Its about preference. My husband and I are 4 years apart any younger and I would run....lol
It all depends on the individuals.
When its 80 years old verses 20 Yuck!!
5 to 8 years aren't bad.
Remember the younger the more they might cheat.
You are ready to settle down a women in her twenties wants to party. You'll figure it out when it happens.

Good luck. Hope this helps!

Answer 4

There are a lot of younger, if you will, women who love and admire older men. If this woman does not respect you, what you have to offer to the relationship and relies upon others for their opinion, in my humble opinion she is the one who is not mature. Your age difference, at that age should not matter one bit. It is not as if you were 15 and she was 4. Now you are both mature adults and can choose who to date.
I suggest you find another woman who will respect your wisdom, as it generally comes from experience and get on with your life. That person will come around!
Good luck, and blessings to you

Answer 5

Don't worry...I am younger and I date older men between 25-50 (I tend to get along with older men). With a lot of women you will find that money takes all over morals and women will take advantage of that. Try not to flaunt that you have money and all that because you will just set yourself up to get used and divorces are not cheap. Nobody said you have to look like Brad Pitt you just have to have confidence and be real. You are bound to find a good attractive woman that you can have a conversation with, spend time with, and not have to worry if she is in it for the money. It is rare to find and it takes time. Don't look for it, it will find you, I guarentee it. Good luck.

Answer 6

I am in the same dilemma...I am 20 and like a 27 y/o guy! I dont know if that helps, but yeah, some women do like older men. I do, personally, because they are more mature and have more going for them...they already have it put together. I was worried about him thinking that I was just a little girl with a crush on him! Maybe we helped eachother?

Answer 7

If you want to date "very attractive women" that are much younger than you, you need to be able to provide something extradordinary. See, younger guys can have a good job, good morals and no bad habits, so, why would they date you? You have to find something that is enough to make up for the fact that you are just the same as a younger guy, but aren't young. Generally men do this with the following....

1.) Money
2.) Power
3.) Fame
4.) The willingness to spoil

Me personally, I am not a trophy girlfriend, but it sounds like you want to date one. If you want to date trophy girl, you have to let her "win" something.

Answer 8

I am so happy to hear you mention good morals, no bad habits, and that you would like to have a family. That speaks so well of you. It means you're not in search of good sex and just adventures that would leave you and your mate so empty.

Do not worry about the age factor. I'm sure lots of young girls would love to date you, you seem a pretty interesting and well educated man.

Just be sure to offer what you decide to commit. Believe me a sincere and mature heart with no bad intentions could be just enough.

I hope there is a girl smart enough to fulfill your requirements also and to notice all you have to offer and to add to her life.

Just act SO SURE of yourself, that drives us quite mad!! Please be a gentleman and do unexpected things.

I wish you the best on your search.

Answer 9

Well i too have been in that situation, and i have to say its all going to depend on if she is really into the situation. age should not be an issue, if she is really interested in you. Most younger women that seek older men are looking for money, if she is part of that one percent that looks for love, then you must show her why you think you are the one for her, and be on your most best behavior. she is watching your every move, so be careful.

Answer 10

there are ladies interested in older men and as long as you are honest faithful and form a connection with the lady then the age difference will not matter --- my lady is much younger than i am and i was not looking for someone her age --- i was looking for someone my age and we were bowled off our feet when we met --- so keep an open mind and dont look so hard