I've been talkin to this guy for a couple of months and we've gone out only twice. We've been talking and have become distant. He txts or calls me when only HE wants to. He's called me a couple of times to meet up, but i really dont feel like droppin everything im doing just to go see him. I guess what im trying to say is...am i right for not dropping everything i'm doing to go see a guy I barely have contact with anymore??????????
2007-07-24 17:55:16 · 10 answers · asked by Bored Latina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I like him...but the relationship has kinda of grown a lil cold.....
2007-07-24 17:56:21 · update #1
I would not waste my time on someone I didnt get the tingly's over if he dont give you that certain butterfly feeling i would move on girl,look there are soo many options out there do not i repeat do not settle for anything less that over the moon L -O- V- E you deserve so much better if a man wants you believe me he'll let ya know hell be callin settin up a date and after that date be settin up another one and if he doesnt drop all the signs move on to someone else be happy in your life you only have one
2007-07-24 18:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in a relationship there's one person who feels more for things than the other. That doesn't mean that either one of them isn't good enough or that one is playing with the other's emotions. These things happen!
If you've only been going together for a couple of weeks, then you're not together for the long haul. He might have just decided that you're not the girl for him, but that he wants you for a good time. If this is the case, then you're best off not giving in to his every whim. Once in awhile be unavailable and see if that makes him seek you out some more. Sometimes it's the chase that's fun.
2007-07-25 01:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee... I think you know your answer.
In college, if you take a class in communication, one of the basic principles is a concept of values. Every discussion, email, sentence or communication fits in a spectrum. One side is how you feel about you and how the other person should feel about you. The other spectrum is how you feel about the other person and how you feel the other person should feel about themself.
In otherwords, if you respond to someone who only calls when he wants something, you are saying that you value that person more than you, that person means more than you in a diadic relationship, and that your value is low for this interaction.
Responding to someone who calls when he wants something reduces your value as a person in this encounter. If you are fine with that (which I doubt) then go with it. If you are not fine with it (which is evident with your question), then set your value by refusing a link or setting rules such as when you want to get together and what rules that encounter will follow.
Good luck.
2007-07-25 01:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by AlexAtlanta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! If he cant make time for you, then you shouldnt do it for him. Sounds like he is just using you for when he doesnt have anything better to do! You dont deserve to be treated like that...he sounds like a jerk and I would just ask him to stop playing games and quit calling. He sounds like a lame duck, hon. It is so obvious that he doesnt really like you. If a guy likes a girl, he makes sure that she feels special. not necessarily stop everything in his life, but at least gives her a decent amount of time...if only just enough to let her know that he thinks about her! You are perfectly in the right, I think a lot of us women would be mad if you waited by the phone for his calls...you cant stop your life for some inconsiderate piece of you know what! Good luck!
2007-07-25 01:01:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anxious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOn tbalme him for your relationship becoming "cold"...it takes 2 people to have a relationship...dont be made becuase he has to do all the work and gets tired of it....you can call him too and set stuff up...
2007-07-25 00:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by Hawaii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find a nice guy that will not be so self absorbed. This one is not all that interested, or he would not be acting like that.
2007-07-25 00:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds 2 me that you have better things to do with your time as of right now.
2007-07-25 00:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't leave everything in his hands. Text him and call him when you feel like it.
2007-07-25 00:58:12 · answer #8 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right for not dropping everything. i mean if he really wants to see you he'll do it on your time not his.
2007-07-25 00:57:43 · answer #9 · answered by islandgrl2011 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time on this guy. Move on.
2007-07-25 00:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Tiesto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋