see heres the thing.its an all guys event..wich actually means its ment to be all guys but will be girls because for some reason there always is.but thats not what bothers me. of course i wasnt invited to go (all guy trip), but it seems like every time my boyfriend goes out with out me he always ends up getting hurt. hes go the crap kicked outta him by a friend in a pit,came to me at 2 in the morn crying and covered in blood with a big gash in the side of his head.and then he went again without me and ended up getting really drunk getting in a pit again and breaking a few ribs.hes also fell into a grill and has scares on his back.broken a few fingers while wrestling around with friends. its a never ending battle. when im not around hes always getting out of control and then getting hurt.and im affraid that its going to happen again.i really want him to go. because we do everything together and i know he needs his guy time. but its for the whole weekend and im scared. what should i do?
2007-07-24 16:49:43 · 15 answers · asked by misshotcakes2u 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was also thinking maybe me and my boyfriend can through a weekend long kayaking trip and invite all his friends down a pretty sweet river we found around my city. but then that would defet the pourpos of a all guys weekend.so i dont know what to do.
2007-07-24 16:51:03 · update #1
and for those who think im control him, i dont. we have been together for over 2 years and he does do what he wants, but he asked me on this one if i didnt care if he went or not. he doesnt want to leave me alone all weekend.
2007-07-24 17:00:17 · update #2
You are a very caring person I see. However he should be old enough to know what's safe and what's isn't.
2007-07-24 16:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Dr Love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that youre worried about him and explain why. make sure he knows that youre not jealous and you're not being overprotective, but that you're afraid he might get hurt. tell him it hurts you when you see him in pain. tell him your ideas for an alternative plan, and see what he says. if he says no, then you have no choice but to accept the fact that he's going. don't let him think you are suspicious of him, because you're not.
to top it off, if you guys are living together, offer to host a guys event at your house, like a barbecue while the game is on, or something. tell him you'll cook for him and his friends but you'll let them have their fun.
if he really wants to go though... the only thing you can do is tell him that you want him to try to be safe, and tell him that you love him and can't wait to see him when he gets back.
2007-07-24 23:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by leigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do. Guys will be guys. If your're a christian I suppose you could pray.
And yeah, your idea to schedule time with him for yourself is probably not only a good thing for both of you, but perhaps will keep him from another event in which he may get hurt.
Good luck.
2007-07-24 23:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Avatar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you are worried about him, but I think it's unhealthy in your relationship to have to "babysit" him all the time, he's a grown boy and shouldn't need you to be there for his every mistake, or move.. I think you should let him go, and just let him know to be careful because you care about him. he shouldnt depend on you to keep him in line though.. I hope you find your right answer, but I think you should just "let" him go..
2007-07-25 00:02:16 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a disaster waiting to happen, and I feel your concern for him. However, it is his choice to risk life and limb, not yours. All you can do is patch him up if he returns, or bury him if not. Otherwise, be on the lookout for someone who does not enjoy extreme agony, and is more willing to spend time with you.
2007-07-24 23:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if there are going to be girls there just be like "can i come, sounds like fun"
but if you dont want to do that or cant, then talk to him about it and ask him not to get hurt. but i dont think you should not let him go, guy's weekends/week in this case are important to them..........i know weird right lol
2007-07-24 23:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shuld let him go cuz he does need his guy time and by the way u talk he gets hurt just discuss that u want him to be careful.
2007-07-24 23:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by pink grl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET your BF do something?
Are you his mother?
Is he a grown man?
Tell him your concerned and tell him how worried you would be if he got hurt and then tell him to enjoy himself.
And then go and have some fun yourself.
2007-07-24 23:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go and hope he grows up a little around the other guys
2007-07-24 23:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by julia j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but if he decides to go, he'll go. You can't keep him from going. "Letting" him go makes it sound like you control his life. You can voice your concerns to him, but ultimately it's his decision and you have no authority to "let him" or "disallow him".
2007-07-24 23:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Raven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋