Do any other mothers feel that somedays they just cant get it right?

Question

Sometimes I feel like either I have a really difficult child or my parenting skills are junk. Any advice for these bad days?

Answer 1

If you get any good advice please pass it along my way because I'm right there with you. I have 3 kids and sometimes I feel as if I've failed miserably as a mother. It's a tough and unforgiving job sometimes. Hang in there! I don't know you, but I'm sure you are a good mother. Those little dickens just know what buttons to push sometimes. They are precious though and God wouldn't have put you to the task if He didn't think you could handle it! Here's a hug coming your way, mom to mom.

Answer 2

Oh my god yes, I am a single mother of 14 month twin girls. They are so hyperactive, don't listen and they have figured out already they outnumber me. Most days I feel like I cant do anything right. I have learned though most people who see me with my kids don't even realize that I feel like I have no control over them. Most people think that my kids are well behaved and they think I am doing a great job. The things is as parents we don't give ourselves enough credit for the great jobs we do. We may not be perfect but if we can get our kids threw the day with out running down street screaming and pulling our hair out, then we did a great job. Best thing to do when you feel like you are going to lose it with your kids is walk away for a few minutes. Put a movie on for them, or do what you need to do to keep them distracted. Then walk away. Lock yourself in the bathroom, bedroom where ever and cry if you have to. Read a book, magazine, eat some chocolate. What ever you can do to make yourself feel better. Then take a deep breath and remember, we all have those days. Just remember that you are doing a great job, and your child thinks you are the best mom in the world. Even on those days that are the worst, I wouldn't change them for anything. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

Its those days where it will be in your best interest to ask a spouse/relative/partner to watch your child so you can go out and have some "Me" time.

The best of parents have days like that- unfortunately I'm not the best of parents (although sometimes on good days I feel like I RULE!) but anyway... I can feel like I"m not the hottest mom around- but I have a wonderful husband who lets me have some ME time-

Perks me up- by the time I get home the kids are asleep and I have MORE me time at home. THe next day is usually much better!

Have more confidence in yourself! =) Do you love your child? Hug them? Kiss them? Discipline them? Feed them? Give them opportunity to sleep? Than- if you answer yes to the above- your doing just fine! Take a deep breathe and RELAX!

Answer 4

I think any mom who says she doesn't feel that way is a liar or deep in denial. I had some really hard times when my kids were little, but then a counselor friend of mine gave me a good tip. Focus on your daily accomplishments... even something as small as the fact that you changed the sheets today or you took out a bag of trash. I know that seems silly, but it really does help to look at the half dozen little things you got done than the big things that you didn't. The MOST important trick I learned was to stop trying too hard. The more I tried to get something done, the harder my kids made it for me to do anything. I found, though, that if I just stopped what I was doing and focused on them COMPLETELY for just a few minutes, they would most often be satisfied and go entertain themselves for a little while and I was able to get more done. The key is to focus on the child until you see his/her cue that they are satisfied... don't just try to distract them.

(They really DO grow up one day!)

Answer 5

I hear ya. I've been a Mom for 8 years now, to my 8 year old son and 5 year old daughter. Sometimes I wonder how I'm getting through some of the things that crop up in the world of parenting.

The worst time for me was when I had the postpartum depression after my daughter was born. I felt so lost and out of place, and I felt like I would never amount to anything as a Mom. Challenge number two was the fact that my daughter was born with a cleft lip/palate.

But... through it all... we survive. We have to. The kids need us. :)

Hang in there, ask for help when you feel overwhelmed. There is no need to be the SuperMom that everyone dreams of being. All you need to do is to love the kids and nurture them, encouraging them everyday of their lives. You'll do FINE!

Answer 6

I think we have all been there, no one is perfect right. We have had our share of behavior problems with our son. We found out though that it all goes back to how consistent we are in our parenting. I was giving in way too much so my son was running all over me.

Don't be afraid to ask for help or advise. There are some great books out there like Parenting a Strong Willed Child which helped me a lot.

We all have good days and bad days, hang in there!

Answer 7

They are not Bad days. They are really wonderful days to remember when the kids are grown up. You need some Crazy days with kids to enjoy recalling them when the kids are grown up and away from you or they are married with kids and feel the same way that you feel today.

Every one has the same feeling

Answer 8

I think we all feel like that sometimes...I do even with a 21-year old. If you are feeling like that, sometimes it helps to take a break. Get a babysitter and spend some time alone or with friends. Good luck.

Answer 9

I wish I knew the answer... some days I just have to lay them down for an early nap, make some hot tea, relax and get my head on straight again.
Hang in there, we've all been there =)

Answer 10

To take a deep breath....no one is a perfect parent. This is how we learn...day by day. I have two kids..one 8 and one almost 2...and i still have my days like that. As long as you love your child,that is all you need to worry about. :)