I mean, if Santa Claus decides that you haven't been a good boy or a good girl this year, you can't go to your friend or reletives wedding if it's at a Mormon Temple. You can't get in unless you are a baptized Mormon with a temple recommend for not commiting certain sins. Even drinking coffee/soda can disqualify you from the wedding even if you were baptized. If your family members aren't Mormons, they can't attend. They can however, go to your reception, but that's it.
2007-07-24 15:55:39 · 19 answers · asked by melissa Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My whole extended family was Mormon at one point (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins). We were not and it really hurt that we could never attend their weddings. It caused my immediate family to be isolated from everyone else. I think it is a joke, and you can thumb me down all you want, but any religion that says your family can't share in special days and tell you to work your way to heaven (in which only so many ppl are allowed anyway) is a joke. Fortunately most of my extended family finally saw the light and left. For the first time in a long time I can have a close relationship with some of them. my under the Mormon church they were told to basically outcast us if we would not convert. However, I can never get back many of those missed memories from weddings and other ceremonies with my family. Oh and we were not even allowed to the receptions.
2007-07-24 16:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by tired 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1) Santa Claus has nothing to do with it.
2) people with a temple recommend are those who have been baptized, have been members at least a year, are normally adults, and live their lives as worthy members. The temple is a sacred, special place.
4) If your family members aren't Mormon-they can't attend the wedding ceremony. However, many couples with relatives that aren't LDS do a ring ceremony outside the temple. The only event someone that isn't LDS can't attend is the actual wedding ceremony. However, anyone can attend the wedding breakfast, dinner, reception etc. and the ring ceremony.
2007-07-26 15:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sherpa 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Drinking soda does not disqualify you from going to the temple as a mormon. However, Mormons consider their temples to be the most sacred and special places on this earth, so it only makes sense that they have high standards for people who enter them. Mormons are not the only religion that have high standards for entering holy places. Why should they get married anywhere other than they want to just because you are selfish person who doesn't want to understand?
2007-07-27 14:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyexmo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Understand that the Temple is considered the Ultimate Sacred house of the Lord for LDS people. Literally a place where we can go and commune with Deity. It's that sacredness that makes the church restrict who is allowed inside. Even LDS members who do not qualify for a recommend don't get in. You wouldn't want to soil the house of the Lord with those who really don't belong there would you? Those whose way of life or spiritual place is at odds with our Lord? Being LDS is a choice. It's not mandatory. Holding a current temple recommend isn't easy, or is it for everyone.
One last thought. The marriage ceremony in the Temple is one that unites a couple, or a family for time and all eternity. You're together forever, death doesn't end your relationship.
But, an LDS bishop can marry pretty much anyone pretty much anywhere except another church for time only. In other words till death do you part. If it is that important to the couple, and to the family, It is possible to have the Bishop officiate at a time only wedding for the family, and then at some later date have the wedding in the Temple.
2007-07-25 02:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have an aunt who is a Jevoah's Witness, a sister who is "a Christian", a father who doesn't believe, I'm a Baptist, an ex-husband who's a Catholic, a best friend who is Jewish, a son who prefers Wicca and a cousin who is a Mormon.
We all pretty much respect each others' choices and have interesting and stimulating conversations when we get together. I've learn a lot and hope they have learned something from me as well.
With that being said, when I am with my cousin, I respect her family and their values and to be honest, I admire them and their commitments. I have always been welcomed in their church and at their gatherings and events. They have never tried to "convert" me or criticise me for my religion. Because they don't allow non-Mormon to the Temple doesn't bother me. And the whole caffine and eating healthy, etc thing - it's a healthier lifestyle.
I also think that if I ever left the Baptist Church, I'd probably go Mormon. One of the things that's stopping me is the whole John Smith and the Angel deal...Other than that, I'd be there.
2007-07-24 23:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The Mormon weddings I have been to are beautiful, but I agree, it's tough to not be able to attend the ceremony. I do get tired of being invited to a reception and then going through a line to say hi and that's it.
2007-07-26 00:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by ∞Infinity∞ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though my religion, Community of Christ, comes from the same historical tradition as the LDS church, I always viewed their temple ceremonies as kinda of funny. For a church who preaches Jesus' love for everyone, they certainly don't practice it very well. And for the answerer who talked about them dispelling misconceptions about their church, they also don't tell you the total truth either. All religions have kooky ideas though, they just don't seem kooky to all the members. The Catholic Church for a long time would not let you be in a Catholic wedding if you weren't Catholic. But still, LDS do seem to have some kookier ideas then most. I would never want to be a member of a church that controlled my life as much as the LDS do. God gave us free choice for a reason.
2007-07-25 12:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi as a mormon although i can understand why only those who have recommends go into the temple itself im saddend for those who cant see the sealing of there loved ones in the temple. some people have a church wedding then get sealed after so the parents can still see there kids get married
2007-07-27 03:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by caz 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My parents raised us Mormons and they are active. I believe that Temple Weddings are bogus. Its like saying you aren't able to go in somewhere because of your race and that's illegal. The Bride and Groom decide where they want to have their wedding and that's where they chose to get married. Its like they don't know how it feels to be left out. Maybe those people should find that out.
2007-07-24 23:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by rachelr168 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't fully understand Mormons traditions but what i have heard of through this show on MTV called engaged and underage and this girl who was Mormon and her bf well fiance wasn't and he converted but his family couldn't go into the church to watch their only son get married, the mom was pissed as hell and i think i would be to but than again its someones beliefs and religion and have to respect that. Others might not be understand it but this is America some things were going to understand and others we aren't. and we have to live with it. but if ur Mormon or converted and ur family can't come see maybe they should have another wedding ceremony after that ur family or ur significant other family can have on the same day, if that's OK with the Mormon religion.
2007-07-24 23:03:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋