so i've been trying to be friends with my ex who i love more than anything so she can be happy.
I have come to realize that she is the one i want but i need to let her be free.
I'm a stong Beleiver in "If you love something,set it free. If it comes back it's yours, If it dosen't it never was". But now i am coming to the realization that it is really hard for me to be her friend because i want to be with her.
I have also realized that If she is meant to be with me then she will come back to me in the end and i will be so happy. I'm going to try and play the field just to make sure that she is the one.
We are both 19, go to the same college, work at the same place.
My question is do you think i'm handling it right and how long should it take for her to act like a friend around me because she dosen't really want anything to do with me.
Thank you for your help and understanding..
2007-07-24 15:16:56 · 13 answers · asked by J.S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she is giving you the impression she wants nothing to do with you...that could not be exact the truth, however, when breaking a relationship off , some need to break it off completely before they can resume as friends....I think it wise for you to be your own person....not necessarily play the field but allow friendships to go where they may....don't push anything right now...be a gentlemen around her during work...don't act like her bf or her ex...treat her as you would anyone...and watch what happens.
2007-07-24 15:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear J.S.,
At this point, hon, I would make a CLEAN break and save your feelings so that you can be healthy and happy. This means: LOOK FOR ANOTHER JOB. DO NOT LOOK FOR HER ON CAMPUS. Do date others and DO tear up her phone number. At 19, there are plenty of other fish in the sea (now where have you heard that before... but it's still TRUE).
Go live a full life. Have some fun. MAYBE EVEN LEARN something while you are in college. To put all of your life into the hands of another person at the age of 19 is foolhardy. You WILL be hurt. Keep in mind that YOU are responsible for your own happiness. There is plenty of room in your heart for a new love and to learn new things. Get busy on both. Your heart will thank you. The girl... LOST.
Good luck, hon. LIFE IS WAITING.
2007-07-24 22:25:07 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude your dating life is a for sure thing for latter but, your relationship with God and your education and me time development is not. Do you son do you! I realize your going through a tough time, but look at it from differant angles. The world is round and flat there are billions of women and life will continue to be. Enjoy life son be free not tide down to a relationship not yet. Grow a small garden fly to Japan,Toyko or go take karate classes something. You don't want to focus on the opposite sex so early in life that's how you get lost. Your still growing give you self room to grow. now go in peace and grace in Jesus name.
2007-07-24 22:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, i think you need to evaluate the situation. if she shows the slightest interest in you, i would say stick with the friend approach (not too close of a friend). if she really wants nothing to do with you and she really means it, your best choice is to get away from her b/c she doesnt love you like you love her. you will end up getting hurt if she doesnt return your feelings and you could turn her against you ruining any chance. go out meet new people and go with the flow, but remember if it wasnt meant to be, its not gonna happen.
2007-07-24 22:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by wiccanlover1989 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her if you could just have a few minutes to talk, tell her how you really feel, but also tell her that you understand that she needs her space. But just let her know that you are there if she ever needs anything.
If she doesn't want to talk at all to you then let her be alone for a while until you feel that it might be okay to approach her again, if at all.
Good luck.
2007-07-24 22:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, you are doing the right thing. if she feels the same way most likely she is just getting over the fact you guys broke up. it could take a while before she is ready to be friends. just be patent.
2007-07-24 22:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by crazy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi you are still young and you have the world at your feet before you have a relationship it is always a good idea to be friends first,my partner and i are the best of friends and we have been together for 20 years now and i still call him my best friend rather than my husband.Remember you are still young enjoy what life has to offer you.have fun
2007-07-24 22:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't even "let go" yet. So how can you expect the second part of that old cliche to come true. Just let go.
2007-07-24 22:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your are doing the right thing, to win her back you should know if she still likes you either but if she is not showing interest that's the cue that you have to let go and move on dear..
2007-07-24 22:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by lindsay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for her, let her know. If she doesn't want to be with you then you can "set her free".
2007-07-24 22:19:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋