my frend was asked out by this guy, and she dusnt like him 1 bit, he is sooo weird, but she dusnt want to hurt his feelings..any1 hav suggestions??
2007-07-24 15:02:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go, "you are too hot to date. I'm just not pretty enough for you" haha. DO NOT SAY LET'S JUST BE FRIENDS.
2007-07-24 15:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by MrsKat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I appreciate you to write this..on behalf of your friend. I am sure you girlfriend had possibly dates in her life. I would suggest to you that, I would not advise her what to do with this issue..It is her choice and her decision and she must take the responsibility to accept or reject the invitation. I feel like you are such a nice, caring and you should not interfere, and involve any kind of suggestions.. sometimes, best friends can try to prevent things to help their friends.. but, it may backfire at you.. I would not advise or make any attempt have you being mail lady between two grown ups.
If you feel uncomfortable to tell her you cant help her. just write a note saying that .you do not wish to lose her friendship she should do this her own..How do you know this person is weird??? because..???be neutral with this problem.. I am sure you will gain more respect and trust with your friends.. it is none of your issues.. let her decide.. and watch and do not interfere or use language may affect your friend personal decision.
This message is your friend: Honesty is best policy..and tell or write to your this friend ...or text message saying that"" you are very nice and dear person but I am not looking serious relationship or date at this time..." see? how easy..
good luck and best wishes..
2007-07-24 22:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by fidalgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have tryed differnt ways to turn guys down nicely. Now a days guys seem to not care when you say you have a boyfriend. Ive tryed saying Im a lesbian. I would tell him your sorry but you are deeply in love with your boyfriend, be over the top with it if he dosent get it say yea were going on a vacation next month, yea hes so great! That way your not mean but he gets the hint.
2007-07-24 22:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by private1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to get his feelings hurt once and for all than to make him think there is a chance his invitations will be accepted. Also best to do so right from the start to prevent the person from becoming a pain in the rear end!
2007-07-24 22:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to say that he's a nice guy, but she doesn't want to give him the wrong idea. She should say it from the beginning, and then be nice to him after that AS IF NOTHING HAPPENED. Guys handle "straight to the face" rejection pretty well. And they respect girls who are upfront, honest, and nice afterthat. To say no, and then avoid, and then not acknowledge him, is to say "you're weird, a reject, and you don't deserve to be treated like a decent person." That makes him weirder because she would be reinforcing all of the negative rejection he's always had.
Say no, and then be nice
2007-07-24 22:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by eliasulmonte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, and don't worry about his feelings. We all get our feelings hurt from time to time. That's just life. You can say no in a way that is not cruel, but yet still hurts his feelings. Just listen to that moral voice inside of you to guide you away from the cruelty.
2007-07-24 22:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to lay it down gently. Say something like "I dont think i'm really ready to be dating right now" or you could say "i dont really think im the girl for you, but theres plenty of other fish in the sea." whatever you do, try not to hurt his feelings
2007-07-24 22:08:19 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Chloe'♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you are in a seriouse realationship or say that you are a lesbian. If this guy is close to you then say that you dont want ot ruin the friendship that you have and that you are just not ready to date yet. I hope this helps.
2007-07-24 22:06:16 · answer #8 · answered by NONAME 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she worried about hurting the feelings of a weird guy she doesn't like one bit? I think that's a better question.
But since you asked, she can tell him, "Thanks, I'm flattered, but I'm really interested in someone else and have been for years."
2007-07-24 22:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say I think ur a nice guy and all but I m gonna have 2 say no. Sorry.
2007-07-24 22:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Risky_Bizness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant really unless you are the most sensitive person on earth, and very good with your vinacular. just say no and be nice about it. dont try to compliment that sounds condecending. just say no but thank you
2007-07-24 22:06:11 · answer #11 · answered by necronomous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋