Become intimate with
2007-07-24 14:33:30 · 23 answers · asked by I Wanna Know 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
good question. i don't see any good reason to do this. you're not helping yourself, and you're leading the other person on. you shouldn't become intimate with someone you are just dating.
2007-07-24 14:39:35 · answer #1 · answered by KellyKapowski 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You CAN date someone without being "intimate". You can do this for several reasons.
Firstly is for the company you get by sharing your time with someone. Yes, you can have company by spending time with your family and friends. But dating (even without sex) is a different kind of relationship, closer and more intimate - one on one.
Secondly, how do you know for sure who you are going to marry? Are you arranged? If you are arranged then dating would be a form of cheating, in my opinion. If not then you might find that, through dating, you might actually come to love the person you're dating? Or find out the kind of person you do/don't want to marry. How are you going to find out, if you never give it a go?
Thirdly, to experience relationships. Few will marry the first person that they date, but with each relationship, you (should) learn something more about other people, and of yourself. You get to learn from your mistakes, and see what does and doesn't work, in relating to other people. They can help you see your faults, and show you how to deal with the faults of others.
But it is your life and you are entitled to live your life the way you want. There is no rule that says you must date. So stay true to who you are, just as long as your not hiding yourself away out of fear of the unknown.
2007-07-24 21:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You, my friend, are putting the cart before the horse. WAY before the horse. If you refuse to date anyone without first securing an intent to marry, you will spend a lot of time alone. Date someone who is your friend first, and is someone you enjoy being with. The purpose of dating is to find out what you want in a spouse and whether your significant other could be that spouse in the fullness of time.
2007-07-24 21:48:00 · answer #3 · answered by nardhelain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?
You look at every date as a future spouse? They must think you are really desperate.
You date to have a good time with someone that you LIKE! Marriage should not even enter into the equation right away.
As far as intimacy, just take it one day at a time. You do not need a piece of paper to have a wonderful monogamous sexual relationship with someone you love or at the very least care about.
2007-07-24 21:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. That's why I've never officially had a girlfriend. I'm not ready to get married yet, so there's no need. There was one girl in college who I really loved, but we never even held hands. I wasn't ready for a girlfriend. I think she liked me too, but overall I'm glad nothing ever came of it. That was the closest I ever had to a girlfriend. (It was a Bible college by the way, so we weren't considered strange for acting that way.) My wife will certainly appreciate the fact I waited for her. That much I know. What the rest of the world thinks doesn't matter as much as what she thinks and what God thinks.
2007-07-24 21:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by fuzz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you really think that everyone should date and then marry only one person in their whole life?
That's what dating is for. To find out if they are someone you want to marry. You don't necessarily have to have sex with everyone you date.
2007-07-24 21:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by DontPanic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons to date I like the one that said to have fun being with someone you like.
You go out with buddies don't you?
To weigh the idea of them being a spouse. And to find out the qualities you would like to have in a mate.
Those are legitimate reasons. We all have friends we hang with. We don't marry all of them, and we don't sleep with all or any of them. They are just a pleasure to spend time with.
Good Luck
2007-07-24 21:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by buffysrosebud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating is a way of getting to know others and deciding if you might like to get to know them better..
I believe single (one on one) dating can wait until you know if you want to get to know someone better.. Go in groups 2-3 couples first and see how it goes..
Dating does not always mean one on one it can be in groups as well..
2007-07-24 21:41:12 · answer #8 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You date for 3 reasons.....
to have fun with someone you enjoy being with
to weigh the possibility of the person being a spouse
to find out what you want or don't want in a future spouse
2007-07-24 21:36:39 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How can you know if you want to marry someone without dating them?
2007-07-24 21:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lionheart ® 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋