I'm not getting married yet, but I've been wondering... My mom's husband and I aren't really very close. I'd much rather share the first dance with someone who I'm close with. Is that some kind of taboo or something?
2007-07-24 14:17:29 · 18 answers · asked by faeriefiddler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
A woman's wedding should be her day and she can dance first with whoever she wants. An understanding husband would probably say the same thing. He's got the rest of your lives to dance with you. Most everyone should agree and the family should understand. If your family is anything like mine they'll all be too drunk to care....lol As for me, I don't know that I'll ever get married. I'd like to someday to the right woman. I know I'd make a good hubby. The only thing is I saw that movie "Four Weddings and a Funeral".....and I couldn't tell which was which....
Ron
2007-07-24 15:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by ndn_ronhoward 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding day is all about you and the groom. Usually the 1st dance is for the bride and groom. If you are not close to your mother's husband you should chose a close male relative; such as an uncle, grandfather, or godfather. I do think that since you are just asking that maybe you might want to discuss this with your mother before that time comes to see how she feels about it too. Talk it over with her especially if the two of you are close so that it doesn't put a strain on your relationship with your mother. Good Luck to you whenever you do get married!!!!!
2007-07-24 22:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by **Q.M.C.** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry honey but unless you want to cause a big family stink that honor belongs to your stepfather. Who is going to walk you down the aisle? Who would you rather have in his place? If he is there and you do not dance with him you had best to have a very good reason because it will be a huge social slap in the face for him if you don't dance with him.
FYI the first dance of the reception belongs to the bride and groom, the wedding party and guests join them on the dance floor about half way through the song. The next dance traditionally is the bride's dance with her father (step father, grandfather, who ever walked her down the aisle)The groom can also join in to dance with his mother about half way through, then the bride dances with the groom's father and the groom dances with the brides mother, then its party time.
2007-07-24 21:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your biological father is not in the picture how about your grandfather? Or Godfather? Or an uncle or brother you are close with. There is no obligation for you to dance with your stepfather or have him walk you down the aisle. You can even skip that all together if there is no one you'd like to dance with.
Weddings these days you can pretty much do or not do what you want!
2007-07-24 21:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong but if he's taken care of you at all during your life then give him a chance.If your( REAL FATHER) isn't around and you don't have any brothers then what's the problem My real father passed away over 21 years ago and my STEP DAD and I had the first dance and it was great we've become friends the older I got the BETTER our relationship became I hated my step dad for many years but now I don't know what I would do WITHOUT HIM BY MY SIDE!!!!!!!!!!!! Give him a chance!!!!!!!
2007-07-24 22:02:29 · answer #5 · answered by nettielo98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, this is your day and you should have the first dance with whom ever you like. who is giving you away? it would be nice if you have the first dance with that person. i recently went to a wedding that the bride had her first dance with her cousin, who by the way was the person who gave her away. if your father is not around it is understandable that the person to take his role in the wedding is your choice and most of the time the closest male figure to the bride.
2007-07-24 21:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding you can do whatever you want. If I have learned anything over the years is that weddings are for the couple not tradition. You see just about everything these days and if it fits you and people see you as a happy bride nobody will think anything of it!
2007-07-24 21:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by Oh me oh my...♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first dance at your wedding should be with your husband.
2007-07-24 22:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's. It's your wedding so make it memorable and special for you. Perhaps you have a grandfather you could dance with or an uncle or brother? Even your new father-in-law would be a neat touch.
2007-07-24 21:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all. my dad won't be at my wedding so a close family friend who has been a strong male figure in my life will be having the first dance with me. luckily mum's partner is really understanding about it and knows that he's only been in my life a short while.
it's your wedding, do what makes you happy.
2007-07-24 21:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by emmybob3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋