Why when you see the words "physical love" do you stop with the word "physical"?

Question

Is there no such thing as a selfless love expressed through physical means?

Does physical Love require a physical attraction? Or is it possible to love the person inside the body so much that you don't care what body they are wearing, you want to make the person within that body happy by pleasing their body (as well as other aspects of who they are)?

Isn't this how many of us view homosexuality, and why we refuse to condemn it?

Bodies are like clothing, and in no way are they more important than the essence within them ... or the love shared between them.

Still, bodies are as much a tool for expressing love as the mouth that says "I love you.".

What say you?

Answer 1

damn thats a great question. it will probibly get my answer deleated but this ties in so well with the s/M lifestyle. I really do beleive it is possable to experss love physicaly with out desireing or receiveing physical plesure from it. there are alot of submissives who arnt masocists but let there dom beat them because he enjoys it and by offering there body for his plesure they experss there love. and I also firmly beleive that loveing the person inside makes the body outside more apealing. edited to elaborate ( a beating at the hands of a loveing careing dom is not the same thing is haveing your face beaten in by an abuser. in fact a good dom can use a cat on a girl for an hour and not leave a mark)

Answer 2

I hope that this will not be misunderstood: Yes. Physical love requires a physical attraction. But the attraction can ensue after an attraction first to a person's energy. This happened to me recently with a gentleman who saw something in me and I was not in the least attracted to him. But he was patient, took his time to get to know me and more importantly to ensure that I got to know him, and the next thing I knew I could not look at that man without wanting to jump his very bones. To me, it represented the drawing down to the physical, making denser, a love that developed beyond the physical. I now look at him and love who he is and what I see, where when I first met him I thought he was nice but I was not physically attracted to him.

Like you, what I see happening is so many delving into physical relationships (what is it, the third date syndrome?) and ignoring the development of a spiritual connection. It is all about pheromones, when it should really be about who a person is and taking the time to get to know them; learning to take matters into our own hands, so to speak, while we take the time to explore and experience the energy of another human being who is touching our soul.

It is when we harmonize the spiritual and the physical, when we reach that place of oneness between two people, that a union between two people is truly perfect, truly selfless, because there is no longer a self, for the two have become the One.

Answer 3

Physical love does not require physical attraction, as in a hug to a loved one or somebody you wish to comfort.

One of the elderly ladies I visit at the nursing home loves to hold my hand and caress my hair. She is absolutely starved for human contact. Physical connections are important.

More hugs make a better world, IMO.

Answer 4

Physical love does not require a physical attraction only if you care about them already before you take it to a physical level.

I learned a long time ago to judge the man on what is inside his heart and his head.

Answer 5

To love someone else you must first learn to love yourself. Respect and trust what you are feeling. Selfless love just means that you aren't conceded and think your better than anyone else. Unconditional love means that you will love someone regardless of who they are, what they are, and mistakes that they made in the past.

Answer 6

in the beginning, it is simply the biology of attraction that brings lovers together, no matter the orientation. sharing life is what makes love become more than physical to us. orgasms can be physical, emotional, mental, and i suggest to you that can be spiritual as well, whatever that may mean to you.