Why do people consider that when 2 people of the same sex are in a domestic partnership they are gay?

Question

My best friend and I are in a domestic partnership and there are people that say we are gay and neither of us is gay what is the best way to handle such people without causing any hard feelings for anyone? My friend and I entered into this relationship to be able to physically care for one another; h51 and I am 67 and we feel that our differet ages should have nothing to do with our being the friends that we are because friends are not mmade because of ages but how one another reacts to one another, Tell us please how others feel about such a relationship though it will never change this relationship. The ides of others not near are usually well accepted so please your comments. Thank you

Answer 1

why do you care? you know who and what you are, and you don't have to justify yourselves to anyone. lots of men share living accomodations, in my building it happens all the time. no one thinks they're gay, but I don't think anyone really cares, either.
I think it's wonderful that you are taking care of each other.

Answer 2

Because it is how it usually is - people jump to conclusions by nature. I used to know 2 women in this situation. They were college room-mates & became the best of friends. They became room-mates after college, neither married and they bought homes together. They became family. I really don't believe they were gay, but who am I to question what goes on in their home. They were 2 very classy, lovely women who looked after one another. They were both near retirement age when I met them.

It doesn't help that so many people are coming out of the closet - they aren't helping your situation at all!

Answer 3

Well, for one thing your relationship, whatever it may be, is no one's concern but your own. However, there are always going to be people who talk, out of boredom with their own lives I think. There's really nothing to be done because the majority of people, once they've made up their minds, will not change their opinion. I do happen to think that people of a "certain" age have earned the right to their privacy and do not deserve to have rumors spread about them. I think that the best course of action would be for you to continue enjoying each other's company and not worry about what the gossip mongers have to say.

Answer 4

It is just because when two people of the same sex live together for a long time, they are usually either related or they are gay. If you are neither, that's okay. But that is what most people might think unless they saw you both dating women.

Answer 5

Because you are over 25 and typically those over 25 are on their own and more independent.

I am not going to lie, if I all I knew was what you told me I would think you were gay too.

Answer 6

Who cares what people think?

Answer 7

society stereotyping