thank you cards?

Question

okay i am a lot late on sending thank u cards for my wedding shower and wedding..i got married 7/7/07. for the ppl that came to both...can i hand write thanks for what they got me and also for being at the wedding?? i dont want to send two different ones bc thats a lot of stamps. so would that work??

okay for those of u just being rude let me tell u this..my shower was on the 1st and wedding was on the 7th. and everything that i registered to get for the shower was $20 or less. and im sorry but i think it is stupid to buy extra stamps when i can save money. i wouldnt want somebody to send me two thank u cards bc i wouldnt want them to spend money that they dont have to. i would just be happy w/ them thanking me. i just wanted to know if everybody else thought the same way. so all u rude ppl can kiss my a**!! thanks so much!!

o and to the nice ppl..thank u for actually being nice!! :)

Answer 1

** wait, i read that wrong. no, you send one letter for the shower and one for the wedding. it is two different events so you need to thank them on different letters or at least i would. unless your wedding shower was like the week OF your wedding.

in any event, i wrote two thank you letters. my showers were held about 4 weeks before the wedding, but i would think you should write two different letters.

Answer 2

Your wedding day and shower day were so close together that I do not think it would be viewed as rude to send one card for both gifts, just make sure you mention them both and say what your intend to use the gifts for. I am sure that as these people are your friends and family they will understand the fact that you had little time between the two dates and it's also not that late to be sending thank yous anyway, it is still within the same month that you got married, some people leave it for months before sending out thank yous.

Answer 3

I'm a little torn on this one myself, but in your defence, your shower and wedding were just days apart so I can understand not being able to get them out then. I was thinking, maybe have two seperate cards, one envelope, lol, but that might be a little too odd. Even odder than sending two thank you cards on the same day for different events.

I don't say this to be rude, or mean, or anything like that. But I may take offense to being thanked for thought out gifts, or gifts off your registry, whatever it is that was bought for you... just thanked in one card for two seperate thoughtful gifts because of the postage stamps.

Good luck! :)

Answer 4

I'm sorry if you think that people telling you proper manners are being mean to you, just because you are hearing things you dont want to hear, but just because you dont want to hear it doesnt make what they are saying wrong and what you want to do right. It doesnt work that way. You posed a question asking if it would be ok, and unfortunately for you, its just not. Your guests will find this highly offensive, as if you think your time is more precious than theirs and cant be bothered to sit down and write out 2 separate thank you notes. They wont consider the cost of stamps, that wont even cross their minds, they will look at it as you are being ungreatful for their time and thoughtfulness.

It seems you are going to do what you want anyway, so I am not sure why you even bothered to ask. I find it funny that in a thread with 17 no's, people like you take the 1 answer that agrees with them as the gospel and completely disregard the overwhelming majority.

Answer 5

I am sure that proper wedding etiquette states that you should write 2 thank you cards, but if your wedding already past and you didn't do your thank you cards for your shower, it only makes sense to include both than you's on the same card.

If you send out your one thank you and people gripe about it because they didn't get a separate thank you for each event then they missed the point.

I did 1 thank you after the wedding for both the shower and the wedding mainly because we paid for and planned our own wedding and I didn't have time to get the shower thank you's out before hand. No one seemed to mind.

Answer 6

Some people spent atleast $30 on a shower gift AND proabably more than $50 on a wedding gift and you think that 41cents is too much money? In my opinion, you should write thank you notes for things before you use them or in the case of checks, before you cash them. You should send two separate thank yous and you should get the shower thank yous out asap.

Answer 7

Normally I would say you should send two thank you cards, one for each event. But, if you are feeling pressed for time and want to save money, send one thank you for both events. Better one thank you note for two gifts than no thank you at all! I hate it when people don't send any kind of thank you! Its like, I took the time to shop for and buy a gift, you can at least take the time to write a thank you! (OK, I'll get off my soapbox now!) ;-)

Answer 8

i dont think that's a good idea. Many people may not care but you should care enough to send them each one for each gift. You know they spent more that 42 cents on your gifts. Get the shower ones out first and then a week later send the wedding ones out.

Answer 9

Well, etiquette says that you should write a note for every individual gift you got, so that would mean two notes. Plus, you should have already written your shower notes. BUT, since logic tends to prevail against etiquette many times, I'd say write one for both the shower and wedding gift.

Answer 10

Send separate thank yous. It's only polite, since there were two occasions. The costs of stamps and cards shouldn't really be a concern for you, they are small costs in comparison with the generosity of the people who gave you gifts.