one days my bf tell me that he want to come in my home and he said he will have sex with me but i said i dont know he just keep saying .do i have to have sex with him,if not how to tell him to not break his heart.
2007-07-24 12:54:38 · 44 answers · asked by diaganaou 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Say I love you so much but I'm just not ready.
2007-07-24 12:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by PuCcI 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously, if it isn't something you want to do,DONT DO IT!
Simply tell your boyfriend that you don't feel ready or you are uncomfortable with the situation.
I know that just because he wants to have sex with you doesnt mean thats all he wants from you,but it could be.
There are morethings in a relationship that come before sex.
I've been with my boyfriend for a year and then some and still no sex, and he says that he will wait until i am ready.
It isn't too hard to tell a boy "no" even if it is your boyfriend and it shouldnt break his heart at all,because if he loves you he csn wait,and if he gets mad or tries to convince you that if you love him you'll have sex with him then obviously thats all he's invested his time in you for.
You and your bf need a talk and his reaction will prove whether he's even worthy to use your precious body or not.
Your body is a sacred jewel,
don't let dogs near it.
I sincerely hope this guy will wait for you and be the one for you.
2007-07-24 13:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by E.V. Carson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some or rather most relationships many people feel as though sex plays a major role, which sometimes may or may not be true. in your case things are a little more complex because it seems as though your bf may be pressuring you into having sex which is selfish because he is rushing you to make sure that his needs can be met and he's not taking the time to allow you to make the decision on your own. If you really do not want to have sex with him it does not matter if you hurt his feelings because it is your body and he should respect that so...don't stress say what's own your mind. Maybe u should say something like...i really care about you as well as our relationship and i really feel as though i as well as our relationship are ready for sex. Sex is a very emotional activity and that's something that i want to make sure that i want to do be4 i do it because there is not turning back. well anyway good luck and i hope you make the decision that will make u happy and ur relationship better.
2007-07-24 13:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things are best said very clearly. You can be as sweet and understanding as you feel you need to be. However in the end just say... N O.
He will understand and if he doesnt then you shouldnt be with him anyway. I have been told no many times in my 34 years, I never got angry. Either he waits or he doesnt. At any rate, it should be a mutual decision not just his.
2007-07-24 12:58:58 · answer #4 · answered by nremtohio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well make sure he knows your wishes to abstain prior to being carried away in a moment. You need to have a discussion with him about it when you aern't in the middle of making out or fooling around.
No, you do not have to have sex with anybody, of course he will act broken hearted, but you need to wait until you are really ready and not be pressured into it by him or anybody else.
2007-07-24 12:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by JesJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.......well, it sounds like you don't want to be with him anymore? Or are you just talking about no sex now and then, and he's pushy, and you need to gain some control over the situation? If it's control you need, then it's control you already have. Make him behave how you want, or no sex. If he's a hitter, or a yeller and screamer, then you don't need him in your life anyway.
2007-07-24 12:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If sex is a make or break of your relationship, and you do not want to have sex, you will have to break up with him or he will put undo pressure on you that could turn violent.
My advice?
If you still live at home, go to your parents with this.
The Rat
2007-07-24 12:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him, "look im not ready to have sex yet, maybe in a couple of months but right now i want to keep it easy between us." then u can say' " dont be sad i want to just not right now. also tell him u love him
2007-07-24 13:01:40 · answer #8 · answered by yaddieshopsallday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly don't want to have sex with him, don't say "I don't know" or anything ambiguous. It might make him think you'd like to, but are shy or playing hard to get. Your best bet is to say "No, I'm not interested in that at all, and don't see it happening in the near future."
2007-07-24 12:58:45 · answer #9 · answered by Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait...A girl on Answers trying to get out of having sex, instead of trying to figure out how to have sex? This is new to me....Kudos to you!
Just be upfront and honest with him and if he doesn't understand then he doesn't need to be your bf anyway!
2007-07-24 12:58:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jeremy J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about his heart. His heart is not in the relationship if all he can think about is forcing sex on you.
2007-07-24 13:00:11 · answer #11 · answered by Ms. Kitty LIVES!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋