The woman told me numerous times and also showed affection in other ways...(not sexual) and then all of the sudden said we needed to slowdown. I did reveal an insecurity about work (i.e. boss takes advantage of me financially-->makes me feel like a chump sometimes). Wouldn't she want to work out any perceived problems? Why would she just want to throw it all away? Especially after she told me I reminded her of her only ex-boyfriend (of 3 years...and they have been split up for over 1 year)? Any thoughts?
2007-07-24 11:59:59 · 6 answers · asked by NewtoDating 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to use a Ferris Wheel analogy.
A woman loves the Ferris Wheel. She wants to go on it so she gets on it. It starts off slow, then goes faster. Then her partner starts to rock the craddle they are in. She can ask to have her partner stop rocking the craddle and she can also get miffed if the operator moves the Ferris Wheel faster than it's operating instructions. However, she still likes Ferris Wheel rides ... she just doesn't want to be in danger while riding it.
In short ... you have to earn more of her TRUST.
2007-07-24 12:08:08 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it either, i had a great relationship going, all signs were pointing to a wonderful future together and then out of the blue, all the negative things came out, and it's time to part waves and maybe pick it up in the future. I was willing to stop my life for her and finally settle down and this was it. But i guess the grass is greener on the other side syndrome came thru....it truly is a wonder any people get together and make it successful. I don't know I feel for you dude!!! hang in there and things do and will get better
2007-07-24 19:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Stymie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty simple, to avoid "hurting your feelings". If she's growing to like you more and more, she would want to send more and more time with you.
Slowdown seems like it's an excuse to meet other guys, which is good. Gives you a chance to meet other girls.
About the ex-boyfriend stuff.. it's all excuses. If your good qualities remind her of the good qualities in her ex.. Wouldn't she want you still? Think about it? It's remind her of her Ex would only be bad if it reminds her of the bad things.
2007-07-24 19:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already reminding her of a historical ex, maybe she hasn't got all the problems from the previous experience out of her system yet. Give her time, she obviously likes you, but doesn't want a whole new basket of problems yet. Talk with her about it and if she mentions reminders of the ex too often tell her it bothers you, if it does.
2007-07-24 19:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cruisin'=^_^=Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would want to throw it all away if she has learned that you aren't the one she wants to spend her whole life with. She wouldn't want to work on any problems because she already knows you aren't the one.
2007-07-24 19:04:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant blame a women for wanting to take it slow,you never know what thelast guy put her through and she dont want to be hurt. talk to her and let her know,show her that she has nothing to be afraid of.be understanding,andalso explain that its not right for her to judge you on her past relationship.whatever you don't argue
2007-07-24 19:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋