no matter what i do he just wont spank me...... he's such a goody too shoes! i'll tease him and all he does is just give me a look. How do i get him mad enough to spank me.... without me going to far?( i dont kno why i wan thim to but i do!)
2007-07-24 11:55:15 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not by playing games, that's for certain. I've never once heard of that working.
It's possible to provoke a man into striking you, of course. But if he does, I don't consider him someone you'd want to be with.
It's hard to ask a man to spank you. Very hard. Believe me, I know. But in the end it's YOUR need - so own it.
If this is something you really want or need, and you trust him to give it to you, then summon the courage to give voice to that and ASK HIM.
He may initially be reluctant. Many men are at the thought of 'hitting' a woman. They're conditioned not to since birth. A reluctance to 'hurt' you is a good thing, not a bad thing.
When my hubby first started, he would swat me a handful of times (not even hard enough to sting), and he'd be done. I made sure that every single time he did, he went on to have a FABULOUS time ;)
Once he saw that I wasn't being hurt, and that it made me happy AND hot, it wasn't long until he started upping the ante.
Believe me...when he's spanked me now, I know it.
Be patient, be positive and communicate. It's the only way.
2007-07-25 04:15:32 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just won't spank a girl, no matter how much she wants them to, or how much provocation she gives them. It's laudable in a way, but also very frustrating for you. You could try making him mad, but my guess is he'll just walk off.
I suspect in the end you're going to have to make a choice between this guy and having your sexual needs met. Luckily there are plenty of nice guys around who enjoy spanking girls, and who'll do it with love. Find yourself one of them, and be happy!
2007-07-24 19:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to bring him into it slowly. Start with something a little more mainstream and work up to spanking. Talk to him though, don't try to get him mad - sounds like he will leave before he spanks!
Good luck!
2007-07-24 19:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though he may NOT become a wife-beater ... at least not without great provocation.
Leave him alone!! Find yourself a boyfriend that will "spank" you while the two of you are dating ... how knows, maybe after the two of you get "married" then he may progress from "spanking" to wife-beating!!
2007-07-24 19:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all u have to show him dat ur not interested in him. there is nothin a guy wants more dan something he cant have........trust me ignore him for a good while and he'll wonder wats wrong wit u and den he will get interested and he will be the one that wants u to spank him!!!!!!!! try it, it really works.
2007-07-24 18:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by Evie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I use to get spanking a lot growing up and i can tell you that there is nothing sexy about it. I just don't get it,sorry.
2007-07-24 19:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that it will turn you on if he does it. Make sure you let him know before hand not to go to far. Some guys just are not into kinky stuff like that.
2007-07-24 18:57:37 · answer #7 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just start your pace faster and faster until you guys are breathing heavilly and scream SPANK ME YOU BASTARD SPANK ME!
2007-07-24 18:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell him if he doesn't start spanking you that you are going to find someone who will.
2007-07-24 18:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Be me 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
What is your problem if he won't to that you should be happy.
that guy's making the harder choice. it would be a lot easer to do it than not. just be happy, cause he's thinking of you.
2007-07-24 19:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋