How do you feel about polyamory?

Question

I was watching a talk show (either Tyra or Dr. Phil) about Polyamory and found it weird, but alittle interesting.
For those of you who do not know and from what I gathered from the show and wikipedia, polyamory is being in a "three-way" or "triangle" relationship. It's not cheating because each person is aware of the other two, whether one is in a relationship with two people who do not love each other or all three in the group are in love with each other (I think, I'm not sure).

So, what do you or 'society' think about this?

Answer 1

I think consensual non-monagamy is a healthy, positive choice for those people who are fulfilled by it.

Polyamory is NOT polygamy in that Polygamy is 1 man with multiple wives whereas those who have define Polyamory have emphasized gender equality as a core value.

Polyamory is also not limited to 3 people. The limits within a Poly relationship are set by the consent of those involved and not outside constraints.

Learning to overcome jealousy is a huge barrier many people cannot or will not get past and for those people polyamory is not the best lifestyle choice. However for people who can let the joy they feel in their partner(s)'s happiness overcome their jealousy, Polyamory opens up a world of loving and sharing.

Most people are actually more Polyamorous than it appears at first glance. It's all about degrees. No one person can completely fulfill every emotional, intellectual, social, and physical need of another. Even most people who are fervently monogamous are still ok with the thought of their loved one playing cards, discussing music, or even dancing with another person. Since polyamory is about loving multiple people far more than it is about sex with other people (which is the fundamental difference between Poly and swinging) it is quite possible to be sexually monogamous while still being emotionally Poly.

How many times have you heard someone say, "my partner's happiness is more important than my own"? A Poly person lives this by letting the joy they feel at knowing their partner is enjoying something be stronger than their jealousy. Over time this builds as both partners grow into this and the jealousy caused by insecurity fades away as the realization dawns that you are more secure because now in order to enjoy the feeling lonving and of being loved by someone does not require them to leave or lie to you.

As far as society's take on this? We are a long way from people accepting others lwho live in a manner they would not choose for themselves. I'm lucky to live in a country where gender no longer plays a role in whose allowed to get married to whom, so I think acceptance of Polyamory is closer here in Canada than elsewhere.

Answer 2

I think it is okay, so long as ALL Three actually know about it and are cool with that.

Personally, I couldn't share a girl with another guy. Too much competition.

I could however, share my girl with another girl. Not because I'm a pig or sexist... I just don't have the same thing to offer. Girls know girls in ways guys really can't.

And yes, I think it's sexy as hell too! lol (Okay maybe I am a little pig) Just being honest!

But really- Polygamy has existed for thousands of years, and many Bible scholars believe that much of the Earth would not be as well populated if it wasn't for it.

Right or wrong? Not for me to decide. That is a decision that the people in the relationship have to decide.

Society on the other hand... Is torn.

Many will not approve, but will accept adultery and gay marriage, while not accepting the fact that 3 people can love each other. Unless they all are 'swingers'. "Then it's okay".

It's just not the 'Norm', so people aren't used to the idea. In time... who knows?

l've never been one to care what the world thinks... just the people who live under my roof.

Answer 3

Polygamy is where One man marries multiple women. It can be more than two wives.

The Mormons started this practice by a "divine" revelation given to Joseph Smith. Joseph liked to "fool around" with other women, so he came up with this "revelation" from god to make OK to have more than one wife.

The Church of Later Day Saints had a new "revelation" that it was time to stop the practice so that Utah could become a State of the Union.

Some factions of the "Church" have not agreed to this new "revelation" so there are groups who continue the practice to this day.
Most young women are forced into the practice by their families.

http://www.childbrides.org/
Click on the link True to read some of the stories of survivors of polygamy. Kaziah's is especially interesting.

It's a barbaric practice and there are some of the "Husbands" who have gone to jail for practicing polygamy.

Answer 4

my society would deffentily frown on this, but i think it is kind of neat, but feel not everyone in the triangle would always feel it would be 100% fair. especialy with 2 females and 1 man. one of the woman would want more time with the man or think the man is spending to much time with the other woman, even in the same house.

Answer 5

It's a religion and the man can take as many wives as he chooses. a three way is a lot different is base primiraly on sexual acts.. A i feel if it's not directly involving me why involve myself. not good to be nosey. america suppose to be the land of the free. You should be able to choose the you lifestyle without being judge.

Answer 6

Personally not for me but eh, other people can do it it's not my business.

Answer 7

It's not for me. If some other people want to do it, it's none of my business. There are a lot of worse things out there.

Answer 8

It's not for me. Too much jealousy involved. One always feels like the "third wheel".

Answer 9

I feel jealosy will ensue beccause everyone wants something of their own.
I don't think the American society will look upon it favorably.

Answer 10

I believe that a relationship is between 2 people and 2 people only.