How come some people just don't like children?

Question

I really just don't like children. Teenagers I can deal with, but kids, I just can't. I don't know when this started or why. Is this NORMAL? Are there other people who just don't like children???

Answer 1

You're not alone.
I'm just not maternal at all. I never have been. When I was younger I said I never wanted kids and it would wind me up when people would say 'you'll change your mind when you get older'. I'm 33 now. I still haven't changed my mind.
Now I get called selfish because I chose not to have kids!!?!
Surely it would be more selfish of me to have a kid I didn't want.
Whilst I would never want to see any harm come to a child and I despise seeing people who have kids and then treat them appallingly. I just don't have any maternal feelings myself. I have more maternal feelings for kittens. And some babies are just ugly but of course I can't say that to the parents of the baby.

Answer 2

I don't know either. I love kids at first but sometimes, after so long, I want to get as far away as possible. I want kids someday though. I know I could handle my own children, it's other people that CAN'T handle their kids that irritate me immensly. I think because a lot of kids are so disrespectful now. I mean I am still young (20) and I see kids today that are being raised so poorly. They are just flat out rude or little perverts, or whatever. All kids are irritating to some degree, it's just their nature, all hyped out all the time. I can deal with that. It's the disrespectful little monsters that make me never want to have my own. Or the pre-teens who think they are the sh*t. That really annoys me too.

Answer 3

I'm not a big fan of kids either. People used to tell me I will change when I have one, but I never had any, and don't plan on it. I am in my late 30's. Kids are ok for a few minutes. I don't mind working with them, but having them in my house is a whole other story. Parents fell like they don't have to watch them at someone's house; like it's a Chuck E Cheese. I hate that. I don't want any kids becausse I do not want to have to put anyone through school or be tied down to staying home a lot. Money is also an issue. They are expensive and I don't make that much in the first place. I personally love my dogs!!

Answer 4

I am a 66 year old woman. I decided not to have children when I was 9 years of age and I have not regretted my choice over the decades. The truth is that not all of us SHOULD be procreating. There are many parents out there who chose to have children for many bizarre needy reasons. Having a baby so you have someone to love, or to love you, is selfish.
I am married for 28 years and husband did not want children - thank God or I would have left him. I had no desire to devote my life to the raising of another human being. That decision is the best for me and everyone else. Most people wish they did not have children, or waited to have them for the right reasons when they were more financially secure. Thank you to those who love to have and raise the babies. I made the best best Auntie because I had no kids of my own but needed to borrow them sometimes. That made the parents happy too. It all works out. 🙂

Answer 5

Yes there are plenty who dont like the annoyance. Whether in a restaurant, on an airplane, or in a store it is difficult to think when children are crying and running around. I see more and more couples deciding not to have them. Dont feel wierd. You are just honest enough to admit what a lot of people are afraid to. Just read on this site the way they are treated even by their own parents. Too many people just simply grow up and think thats what they have to do: get married and have children ( or on this site not even the get married part) then they wake up and discover its no fun.

Answer 6

Some people just don't like kids. Sometimes they grow out of it. A lot of the time, I hate kids, but only because their parents aren't controlling them and they're running rampant. Poor parenting leads to children most people don't want to be around.

Answer 7

To the user who said "Your just an impatient person. You were a child once to you know. I think people that don't like kids are selfish." - I'd rather be impatient and know what I want then have the patience of a saint and wind up with 10 kids I didn't want in the first place. The people who are truly selfish are the ones who claim to love kids, punch out 5, and not properly raise them.

It's normal for some people not to like kids. I personally can't stand little ones. I don't like that they make a lot of noise and I don't like the fact that they're so needy. But I also realize that I don't really want to be a parent. It's mature to realize this rather than to slap on a happy face because society tries to force all women to want or have kids. If I do decide to have kids one day, I'll adopt. Almost anyone can have a baby, but few people have the courage and love it takes to love a child that didn't come from them.

Parents are really irreponsible these days, and because they're dysfunctional, they create little monsters. Kids that are brought up to be well-behaved are nice to be around sometimes, but like another user said it's great to know that someone else will take them home at the end of the day.

Answer 8

I don't have much time for children. It is a personal thing and yes it is normal for some to feel this way. Nowadays, children can be a special nuisance, as quite a few of them do not get adequate discipline. When I was growing up, we had more respect for adults. Also, the noise they make and the boisterous behaviour gets on my nerves.

Answer 9

I have one grand-daughter that doesnt like children. I applaud her for being honest about it. Better people realize they dont like kids than to go ahead and have them anyhow and find out it was a very big mistake. Not all children are lovable. I dont ascribe to the propaganda that the only way you can be happy is to get married and have children. Some people should never marry and a lot of people should definitely not have children. Congratulations for knowing your own mind.

Answer 10

Absolutely. I myself do not care for children. With all the poor and often non-existent parenting going on (read: no discipline), it's none too difficult to dislike them. Often, parents feel that just because the child is born, that all allowances should be made and that others should just deal with it.