My best friend's mother just passed away.
1) Do I send the letter in the mail or hand it to them?
2) Do I address it to my friend, or the whole family?
3) Is $100 in the envelope customary?
2007-07-24 11:03:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hand your friend a personal sympathy card.
Attach a family card to the flowers you order and have sent to the funeral home.
Im not sure of the circumstances but if they need help paying for the funeral or have a fund started at the bank, you can donate. If they are just strapped financially, I would give your friend or their father the $100 and say I would like to help out and I hope this will help. One tradition often overlooked is to take a covered dish [like a casserole] or even a bucket of chicken to your friends home after the funeral under the premice that they will be to upset to cook. This was done for my sister and she appreciated it so much. I doubt she would have eaten the day she buried her daughter if it were not the good intentions of her good neighbor.
p.s. if you know if family had burial insurance, theres no need to give money but instead donate it to the Mothers favorite charity.
2007-07-24 11:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Ice 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To a best friend you would give it to her directly & just to your friend. Also send a sypathy card to the family. Flowers are customary unless they have requested a money donation to a specific charity. I hope this helps
2007-07-24 18:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by odd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. mail the letter
2. address either to the "Smith Family" or x and family
3. never heard of that, how about donate the money in the person's name and send them the information. That would be a nice gesture
2007-07-24 18:21:35 · answer #3 · answered by njyecats 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Customs vary in different parts of the country. Where I live, it's perfectly acceptable to hand it to your friend or to the husband of the deceased. Most funeral homes have a place to put cards, too.
And giving money to the friend or family is usually preferable to donating to a charity.
2007-07-25 03:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) mail the letter otherwise at the funeral they are having to carry it around.
2) Address it to your friend
3) I have never heard of giving money directly to the person, usually if they are accepting donations they have envelopes at the funeral for that...otherwise make a donation and include a note saying you made a donation in her name to xyz charity.
2007-07-24 18:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah..The pale cast of thought. One must illuded himself in the shadow of the miserer
2007-07-24 18:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋