I have a female relative who has invited herself to come visit me on Labor Day weekend. I do not want her staying with me as I don't trust her. She thinks because we're family and that she can barge in and stay as long as she wants. She never asked me - just bought her airfare and informed me that she's coming. Someone please help me - I do NOT want her staying with me. Any great ideas or excuses?
2007-07-24 11:02:07 · 11 answers · asked by KeysGirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. My idea is call and say you are sorry but her visit wont work. the less said the better. You may have to make up something however like you have other houseguests or you are having your house fumigated or you are planning to paint that weekend. But more important is cutting off the custom of people inviting themselves. As soon as they bring it up have a canned answer like Oh that wont work. Ill let you know when I can INVITE you. Using the word invite over and over does seem to send a message that it is not others place to visit without an invitation. You teach people how to treat you . Call now and end this silly manipulatioin. If she says the tickets are non refundable, good then maybe she will learn her lesson.
2007-07-24 11:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have other family that lives around there? If so, call and tell her you are going to be out of the house alot that week and you don't want her feeling left out and suggest that she stay with another relative. Or you can just runaway for the time she's there! If she can afford airfare to come and see you, then she can afford a hotel room. Good luck, I HATE pushy relatives like that.
2007-07-24 18:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by ms chip dog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When she arrives, or if you talk to her before she makes the trip ask her where she is staying bc you are expecting company that you gave word to them that they could stay with you. Then suggest a nearby hotel. You do not have to put her up in your house, and you shouldn't. If she insists on staying, or says anything about no one else showing up, tell her that plans were changed and they should be there soon but you are not sure when or what day they will arrive so she cannot stay with you.
2007-07-24 18:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get in touch with her asap, and tell her that your really sorry but you have made plans with friends / family, and you cannot have her stay this time. This only if you can't be honest with her. We all have a relative like this, makes you want to go
grrrrrrrr. Good luck.
2007-07-24 18:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by JazzyLynn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you're sorry, wish she had spoken to you first, but you've made other plans for that weekend. You just don't have to tell her that your plan is to be with ANYONE other than her! Think of another relative who annoys you and suggest that she visit them instead. She should be able to change her airline ticket for a nominal fee. In any event, its neither your fault nor responsibility.
2007-07-24 18:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tom K 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If u have to sometimes u have to be brutley honest. Be firm & tell her tjhat u do not appriciate that she rudely invited herself into your home.That she has no right to decide when to come. That the respectable way is to ask your premission to see is she can visit so she won't inturrupt your life &plans.Also tell her that if she dose not respect your demands then she won't be welcommed into your home.
2007-07-24 18:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor thing.
well, if she's already purchased her ticket, you may be stuck. its sad when people don't realize they aren't wanted, lol.
if you don't trust her, hide your stuff and make sure you tell her that you have something to do 2 days after labor day, that way she knows she has to get out.
you must be a really nice sweet relative for her to be clueless on your real feelings.
2007-07-24 18:06:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her your busy, or you have company staying over already. Tell her she can stay at a hotel, and she can come over for a little later.
2007-07-24 18:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Dalia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that she can't stay at our house and that she sould get a hotel room.
2007-07-24 18:05:36 · answer #9 · answered by Blondy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the exterminators are bombing your house that weekend, and no one can be inside.
2007-07-24 18:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by bonbebe 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋