Help Me? Im Only 13 but.....?

Question

Is love addicting? I know this is going to sound stupid coming from a 13 year old....but still, i need some grownup advice here. I fell in love with a girl once, and she said she was in love with me too, but we gradually started not liking each other. but now that we broke up i miss the feelin of love. that feeling that u have someone special, that someone ur always thinking about, always wondering about. asking yourself what are they doing right now? what are they thinking right now. now all the adults reading this i know what your thinkin you dont know wat love is, but i reall do, and i miss it badly. whenever i hear a song, a slow song, i think back to what love felt like, and i miss it. so just give me some advice to get over this. also this was kinda ova the internet, but i think loving someone on the intenrnet only strengthens it, becuz u get to kow the person be4 u base ur opinion on looks.! so help me

i dont love this girl anymore, i just miss what love feels like, everything was better when i was in love but whatever i know i still have alot of years and it was not puppy love

Answer 1

Sounds like puppy-dog love, and not much else.

Answer 2

I am not going to ask you what do u know about love because I 've been there. But i am going to tell u that u r obsessed. Think back on why u 2 broke up. In my opinion u miss the someones company & not exactly her. If u 2 were truly in love the 2 of u would have found a way 2 stay together no matter what. It's not going to be tommorow but one day you'll find some other girl that truly loves u & wants to be with u no matter what. But for now please try too occupie your time in other activities that you enjoy.

Answer 3

Don't let anyone tell you you don't have a clue what love is. You're never too young to love someone. My first real love started when I was 14. It never really died. It just became a different kind of love...I ended up loving him like a friend/brother after awhile. Anyway, don't fret too much about it. Love IS wonderful, and it's never fun to miss it. But don't miss it so much that you begin to toss your love at any girl who walks by. Remind yourself how much love you will have to give when the right girl for you comes along. And honestly, while I am not saying you don't know what love is, I'm willing to bet that the love you find later will be even deeper and stronger, and eventually you'll find a girl you love more than you could ever imagine...and it'll be worth every minute of waiting and missing and longing for love:)

Answer 4

Love can definitely be addicting. Love addict right here!!!

I am absolutely positively addicted to falling in love.

I've also never had a lasting relationship (nothing over 1 year).

I didn't even know I was an addict until someone else pointed it out to me.

I know how you're feeling too. I broke up w/this guy almost a year ago...and things were about as bad as they could be....and even though I broke up w/him all that time ago, I still think about him now. I still miss him. But I definitely don't miss all the crap I went through during him. I'm not stupid enough to try with him again, but I can definitely admit to being a bit self-destructive about my feelings for him.

Time heals all wounds darlin....all you need is time (or someone else - though that is not the recommended path) to make you forget all about that one you fell out of love with.

Answer 5

First, your question is good and completely normal. I'm sure there are many your age who have the same question but just don't ask. Good for you. Now, there are many types of love; your preferences will change as you age. Love is your own personal definition. The main thing isn't whether you are in love or not, but it's what you do with it. You need to be willing to feel the deepest hurt in order to feel the deepest love. What you feel now. . .guess what. . . you will probably feel it even deeper sometime in your life as you age. It can be heavy on your heart. That's why the old addage says, "is it better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all". Again, it's what you do with it. You can embrace it in a healthy manner or abuse it. I hope this helps. . . . and as you'll learn in life ; there's no simple answers about love and it's based on experience.

Take Care!

Answer 6

well having gotten over feeling bad before i'll tell you what i did to get over it
throw yourself into reality dont go searching for another internet love. For a while just lay low and chill with your guy friends, they will know how to make you feel better. if you dont have any guy friends then now is the time to make some. Just stay hanging out with the guys until you start to feel better about the situation. Eventually you will start to feel better then you can start to look for another girl. I would recomend looking in real life instead of over the internet though because a large part of romantic relationships is the physical bonding (thats not being shallow its just chemistry)
Also, avoid slow songs, they just make you feel bad. Usually i start listening t punk rock when i'm getting over someone but its your choice what you listen to as long as it doesnt remind you of your x.

Answer 7

This is totally normal, everyone goes through things like that after they have broken up with someone. You just need time to get over her and just think about something other than her because the worse part is knowing that she may not be thinking of you so why waste your time on that? You are only 13 so you still have time to meet other girls throughout junior high and high school. So keep your head up and know that you're not the only one in this position. Just focus on important stuff.

Answer 8

I know how you feel..I'm only 15 and I'm in love. All the people I know think I don't know what love is. I know I'm not really "grown up" but I think I can help. Before I started dating my boyfriend I thought I knew what love was but I didn't..now I can't imagine life without it. I'm not saying you don't know what love is. I think no matter how old you are you can fall in love. But I don't think you can get over love. You can move on but that girl will always be your first love. And that's not going to change. But if you get yourself back out there you can find love again.

Answer 9

You will be OK. Its good to have these feelings once in a while. It keeps you humane. There will be plenty more feelings like that in the future so for now just focus on your studies OK.

By the way although your point about the Internet relationship is valid, you should be very careful as Internet relationships can be very dangerous.

All the best

Answer 10

I don't know if love is addicting, but wanting to be in love and feel love is very important to most people. We all want to feel "special" to someone. Many of us have had internet "flings" and they can be good and bad. Good because real friendships can be made and bad because people can get hurt.

My advice is to get out and go to the mall, movies, etc. Hang out with some friends and hopefully you won't hurt so much and/or will meet some great people in person!

Answer 11

Everyone wants to feel loved, and you are missing it right now. Over time it won't hurt so bad. Like you say, you are 13. You have a long time yet to meet a lot of people, and surely you will love and feel love again. It just takes time.