we have discussed this and she knows I let her live here to pay my bills. I have no intention of ever marrying her. She says it's ok I don't love her, she just likes to be around me.
2007-07-24 10:32:37 · 54 answers · asked by JeffAV 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think this makes you a bad person. You are are regular person making a bad decsion. You may just need to change your girlfriend/boyfriend status to roommate status so there is no confusion. If you care for her, you need to consider her feelings about being "used". She may be hurting on the inside but just doesn't want to challenge you. What happens when you meet someone else that you do love, or just want to fool around with. Will she understand? Alot is at stake.
Freedom costs...really!
2007-07-24 10:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a bad person for letting a female pay a Male's bills.. well, depends on the arrangement you two made. Do you arrange for this to be this way for years to come? Do you have a job? And why is she paying your bills? It should be a shared thing in my opinion, but what matters is what the both of you decide. If she gets a boyfriend, will you be jealous? If you get a girlfriend will she be jealous? If you don't love each other then it is just for conivance. Not out of love. In these day and times, it does take two for a household.
If I were you, I would think about where you see yourself in 5 years down the road. For her, I would ask she do the same thing. Good luck to the both of you !
2007-07-24 10:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen758 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that you are honest about it with her is a good thing. Except you shouldn't call her a girlfriend should you?So I see it as you giving her a place to stay and she reciprocates? She pays ALL bills? In that case you are living off her and you need to move out. But you say she lives with YOU. Does that mean you pay rent? I am hoping that soon she ( or you) can move on and out, after you tell her that she deserves better life where she can meet others
2007-07-24 10:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha!!! You must have something that intrigues her and keeps her there with you or she may be desperate just to have a man in her life. No offense to you because if this is what she chooses to have in her life, then it's not anyone but her own fault when she gets hurt.
But on that same hand, how can you take advantage of a woman who has low self esteem? How can you allow a woman to pay the bills and not love her? What goes around comes around.
2007-07-24 10:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats MESSD UP n i capitalize it bcuz u shouldnt b doing that 2 her even if u dnt love her or have no intention of marrying her thats not right. Not trying to be mean to ur girlfriend but she is stupid 4 letting u jus use her 4 her money. Althogh she likes being around u doesnt mean she has 2 pay UR bills.
2007-07-24 10:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a knucle head bump it's head as much as you can. At least you kept it real with her!!! She's the fool! My biggest question to you is - do you bring other girls to your crib or you go to theirs?
Seriously, If you do not want her let her move on. She may be okay now but, what happens when the time comes and you want her to move out? Do ya think that she will become psycho on you? Sometimes thing like that happen. They say it's okay, but when it comes down to it - boy does the story change. Watch yourself is all i say. I wish I could find a man like that!!!!!
Now you should really change her title from being your girlfriend.
2007-07-24 10:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by spreetray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a bad person!
She lives with you right? So she is using you for a place to stay!
You are up front about this so she is well aware once you find someone better you will kick her to the curve.
What you don't know is that she is hoping you will fall in love with her and you will stay together.
If you don't want to be with her then leave her. You both will be happier people!
2007-07-24 10:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a mature thing to do on your part, allowing her to pay your bills. I'm wondering if she's thinking she'll get you to change your mind about marrying her. Really, motivate yourself to get a job, a place of your own and stop using her.
2007-07-24 10:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Wickwire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is not right of you to just use her, but then again she knows how you feel. Maybe she is in denial and thinks that someday you will change your mind about the relationship, or she could be obsessed with you. You might want to consider ending the relationship before things get bad.
2007-07-24 10:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as she's okay with it. If you're going to be callous, the least you can do is be absolutely honest about it. The worst thing is waking up one day and realizing that the wonderful man you share your life with is a lying pig. So hey, if it works for you guys. Just please don't have any children together.
2007-07-24 10:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋