They were good friends then dated for 2 years didn't get along as a couple he broke up with her but they are still friends. She calls occasionally and wants to hang out with him. He told me she wanted to see a movie with him and he said he'd like me to go if i could but if i couldnt he'd still go with her. I at first was upset but I thought I should just bite my lip and trust him.
Now his family from texas is in town and I met them the other day for a bbq. Now they are having another bbq tonight and I can't go until later cause i work but he just told me that she wants to see them and she might go. Which means, while I'm at work waiting to get off to go over there she will be hanging out just him and her the X GIRLFRIEND like old times with the family. This just isnt fair...What should I do?
2007-07-24 10:17:54 · 13 answers · asked by LambiguousGoat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Id be bothered by this too. I think what you need to do is sit down and have a talk with your boyfriend about it bothering you and maybe you 2 could go over some different circumstances that you both can agree on. Such as, no family visits with her, no alone time with her, talking on phone is ok, them going out with groups of people together would be ok. He should understand this, this is not fair to you and clearly she does not care so you need to make him recognize how unfair this is.
2007-07-24 10:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by JJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, I think this girl is bent on driving you crazy. She might be trying to prove that she was the best thing he had. You need to stay cool and don't let her feel that she is affecting you. I was in this situation once with my husband's ex ( Before we got married).
This girl would go to his work place and literally spends hours talking with him! Then when I am around she wanted to be the center of attention. I partially ignored her and only paid attention when it seemed relevant to me. She would try her very best to throw her Job in my face (she worked in a bank). I didn't even let her know that i was more qualified than her and could have easily taken what she had.
Finally, she realized that her behavior was not pushing my buttons or impressing me in the least and she gave up. She sends hellos now and then to me, but she realized that she had failed miserably. You need to stay cool.
So hang in there and trust your Boyfriend. If he has not given you any reason to think otherwise, then you will be just fine
All the best
2007-07-24 17:30:58 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in a serious relationship (which I assume you are) tell him how you feel about it. In my opinion, it's never ok for someone in a committed relationship to be close friends with/spend alone time with someone of the opposite sex, particularly an ex. It's disrespectful to you. It sounds like deep down she wants him back or maybe (sorry) he wants her back, depending on who's really holding on to the relationship. That kind of situation can really backfire, no matter how long they've been apart.
2007-07-24 17:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Donna
its for a chat with bf , it is time to pick which one he wants and time for the ex to stop calling and hanging around . if i were you i would not show up at the bbq and go from there , a crisis at work works doesnt it ? sounds like he still likes her and likes her too much
2007-07-24 17:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by jgilbertdo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly this girl is trying to steal him away from you but your BF is too clueless to realize this. Whatever you do don't confront her 'cause she will tell your man and he will blame you for trying to break up their friendship. The best you can do is to talk to your man and tell him how you feel, but do this in a gentle way and do not let him know that you are jealous('cause i think you are a little, I'd be too!!!). If he loves you he will do what is right. If this fails try to hook her up with a man so she can stay the hell away from yours!!!! Good luck
2007-07-24 17:27:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are at work, that uneasy feeling you have because you don't know what your boyfriend is doing is not a normal feeling you should have to deal with in a relationship. She is stepping on your toes, and he is enabling it. Tell him what you just told us, and how it makes you feel, and what you want to change. Then work on it together, from there. If he refuses to budge even slightly, I suggest moving on because that will prove he is not over her. She is obviously not over him.
2007-07-24 17:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you know they are friends but now that she is his ex you feel a little uncomfortable then talk to him about what you mind and don't mind about how they socialize. If you calmly explain your feelings to him when its the two of you I'm sure he will try to make you feel comfortable.
2007-07-24 17:25:29 · answer #7 · answered by cutie_pie_sim_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way, it's not right that he doesn't care how uncomfortable you feel with him hanging out with his ex. but you gotta remember that they were friends before they hooked up. also, the most important, when they were together, they didn't work out. he was the one to break it off with you and he chose to be with you. be mature about it. you don't wana go all psycho on him. you'll only push him away.
2007-07-24 17:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Skittles 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BREATHE!!! He said she's not the one--you are. He needs to be clear about that so I suggest he not invite her to family functions and that he not be alone with her. If she's not over him, he's playing a dangerous game.
2007-07-24 17:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SLUUUUT
she is a slllluuutt. she might wanna "hang out" with him cause she wants him back
u no what to do
dress hoooooottttt and then kiss him in front of her!!! she will get jealous
its time to up your game.
2007-07-24 17:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋