all of the people I went to school with are either engaged or married or serious with someone. I just dont have time with college and work to "settle down" are they moving too fast or is it just me?
2007-07-24 09:40:58 · 51 answers · asked by petiteandsweet!! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're going to be the person they envy. When they're recovering from their divorce, looking for a second low paying job and trying to find a babysitter so they can make it to that second job you'll be the example of what they could have been...
2007-07-24 09:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You make it sound as if you are an old woman. I am 22 myself and have never had a girlfriend my entire life, I've had interests in woman and dated, but never an actual relationship. To be honest every now and then I think about it and will be like "It would be nice to have a girlfriend" but 99.9% of the time I am happy being single and being able to enjoy the things I want to enjoy as much as I want.
Of course I am also 3 years into college with no degree plan whatsoever, as I am a very undecisive person. I know people who are 2 years younger than me that have gotten married AND have kids as well, and they struggle all the time.
Sticking to college and work is the best decision, which is the same thing I am doing. Good Luck with whatever it is your going for and enjoy life at your own pace X-).
2007-07-24 09:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by drandsv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is relative to your own personal situation and priorities. There's no need to worry about a family at 21. Finish your school, but don't let your current ambitions prevent you from being serious with someone. Always take the time to look at the oportunities in front of you and weigh them respectively. If getting a C on a paper keeps you from loosing your future husband, then you won't regret that down the road, but if a late night out causes you to miss class and fail, then that's something else to consider.
2007-07-24 09:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by sur4ed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I am the same way! I was in a serious relationship with someone but he left me and got married to another girl whos like 2 years older than me. Your doing the right thing by taking care of you first, because without getting yourself right you cannot survive in a relationship. Thats what I am back focused on, because the married life should wait until we grow a little more and get things together. I am 21 too and I think that we should wait, because if the time is right we shall know this! They are rushing because its 2007.
2007-07-24 09:46:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People go at their own pace. I know people who were great mothers and wives within a year after high school. I am 23 and I'm nowhere near ready to settle down yet. Some people are never ready to get married. If you don't feel like you are ready or have time to get married, then it's not time for you to do that. Don't compare yourself to the others. I don't think one is more right than the other.
2007-07-24 09:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Alli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just fine. I am 39 and now have a good boyfriend. I was not ready at all then for certain reasons. You don't have to be like everyone else. When the time is right, you will "settle down". Until then, just keep working and your schooling and spending time with your friends and family.
2007-07-24 09:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone does things at a different pace. Just because they've all settled doesnt mean you have. You may not be at a time when you want to tie yourself to someone.
As long as your happy with the way your life is going then dont stress.
Its easy enough to find someone to settle down with if you'll lower your standards.
2007-07-24 09:44:54 · answer #7 · answered by Te 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 21, dont be in such a rush. You are doing things are your own pace. They are going to be jealous of you later on in life. Most of my friends are married, with kids, and im only 24. A lot of them are jealous that I have the freedom that I do, because I chose to go to school and work before I settled down. Plus, I have yet to find a man that I would like to settle down with.
2007-07-24 09:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by partygurlone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, by the time you are ready to settle down all those people will be paying for their 1st or 2nd divorces.. trust me you are not going to slow or anything. I actually think that what you are doing with going to school and working you are building a better future for yourself to make sure you are financely secure. Don't let it get to you too much, your time will come, but the good thing about that would be that you are not rushing into it so your relationship when you get into one will last. :-)
2007-07-24 09:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by littlemama882003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u may feel bad but dont be instead of rushing focus now on ur life accomplish all you can because sooner than later a guy will knock on ur door and it is best when you have accomplish something so u can feel a sense of independence.
Mayb they are moving fast mayb not mayb they found mr/mrs right but it seems like u havent dont feel bad dont jus say u love someone because they said they do make sure he's like ur dream guy r xactly like ur dream guy and when u do right mr right the wait would have been worth it.
2007-07-24 09:51:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the right person will come you will know, and the school work or how busy you will be you'll find time for him too. Just give it time... and for now focus on the school...
Mine husband came when i least expected him. i was not thinkin about marriage or even beeing engaged...
Everybody has their own time to settle down..
2007-07-24 09:46:12 · answer #11 · answered by nenndre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋