Could the high divorce rates be attributed to premarital sex?

Question

Consider this, that both men and women release chemicals that induce a feeling of connection between the two creating a bond that otherwise would have been weak if personality and attitude were the only factors.
If people would refrain from premarital sex or wait until some time then you get clouded by all the chemicals and rush into something your not ready for.

Answer 1

No its the after marital sex with other than your spouse that is one of their problems.

Answer 2

Well, I'm 22 and I've been battling an ex for almost 3 yrs. (and I'm still waiting on him to sign the divorce papers!!!) I do think that premarital sex plays a role in the high divorce rate, however, I think the fact that so many young people rush into the new fade that is marriage and children contributes alot more. I was only with my ex husband for 1yr. and 4mths. In that time there was a 4mth. courtship, 11mth. 3 week marriage and a child born of the mess that was us. If it weren't for poor impulse control, I don't think any of that would've happened (though, I wouldn't change it for a second because then I wouldn't have my beautiful daughter) Looking back though it was very stupid, we didn't know really anything about each other. Basically, I think if the younger generation, say 18-25 would just slow down and enjoy there life and relationships and stop thinking that there's always a way to improve things, it would all be alot better. Less domestic batteries (possibly, mean men are mean men, sometimes) and a lower divorce rate.

Answer 3

Honestly, I think high divorce rate is contributed by the two individuals not knowing what marriage is all about. Its not the "pie in the sky" piece of heaven, playing house and all that jazz that the TV makes it to be. They jump into marriage too soon without really getting to know the other person. It seems like some people get into the "peer" pressure setting when they finish high school or finish college and all their friends are getting married so they think that the "thing to do". You might have a point there, however I think its more than just sex that causes the high divorce rates.

Answer 4

It's true and has been proven. But it's not entirely due to chemicals or the exchanging of souls (as some believe).

Those who have the "try before you buy" theory are totally wrong. All studies have shown that couple who waited for marriage stay together longer (usually for life) and are happier. Further, the sex is reported to be MORE satisfying. There are LESS affairs and MORE communication... therefore LESS chance of divorce... even among those who married young and/or had not known known their partner long.

The more partners one has, the more one wants. You never know if you've "tried" enough of them. Who will be the best?

It's better to LEARN your bodies together as a couple and make the sex the best it can be, without any comparison.

Disclaimer: I'm not saying ALL divorce is caused by promiscuity. I'm saying that couples that wait are proven to be less prone to it.

Love,

Kia
Sexually active but knows the truth

Answer 5

Pheromones play a small part of the attraction between 2 people. As a couple gets to know one another, the mental, emotional, and physical bonds grow stronger and the relationship flourishes. Problems occur when part of the relationship is lacking, it's not only because the chemical attraction is no longer there, one partner may not feel the emotional or physical bond and because there is no open honest communication, it may leads to Adultery. There are all sorts of other factors that lead to divorce.

Answer 6

It is not necessarily the chemicals from sex or sexual desire. The thing is that people are putting marriage and children in their life before they even start to develop their own lives. They should be putting college and housing situation plans in their lives before trying to start a family. Their lack of priorities is more of a problem than premarital sex is.

Answer 7

People have been having premarital sex for years (forever, I'd wager), it's not a new thing. Rising divorce rates are due to a more complicated set of circumstances than that (they're easier to get, not as much of a stigma, etc.) and can't really be attributed to one, single factor. Good guess, though.

Answer 8

I hadn't thought of it because of the chemicals, but I know people who live together have a much higher chance of divorce than those who don't. I definitely think too many people have sex before marriage, and most of the time I'm sure it's bad (ie., they get married because she's pregnant)

Answer 9

I think those are great facts, but personally I don't think it's the basis for divorce. I think either people just don't spend enough time together to see all facets of each other's lives before they get married, or as in my case, my ex and I just grew apart. I didn't sleep with him for a long time before we were married, but I don't think it would have made a difference if I had.

Answer 10

I definitely think that it can cloud one's judgment and I definitely think that it could one of the factors, but there is more to it than that. For love or for passion? The word love doesn't really seem to carry much weight anymore. I mean, I love beer, but I'm not passionate about it. However, I am very passionate about my wife, my job, and my kids. If people were as passionate about their home life as they are about their hobbies ( like golf, skiing, sailing, etc) then we might see a decline in divorce. It's not about "me" time, it's about "us' time.

Answer 11

i thinks the high divorce rate is mostly attributed to people thinking that they are ready for a huge commitment like marriage then a short while later realize that their not ready