if i make him take care of the baby it will ruin his life hes to young the girl is only 12 i want her to get in abortion so if she doesnt hows it my sons falt it might not even bee hiis baby but the girl swears it is
2007-07-24 08:52:08 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First: I don't think you should keep and care for the kid if your 13 year old son is having sex and you've not been aware of it enough to stop him. With those parenting skills I suggest you don't keep the baby yourself.
Second: Abortion isn't necessary. My mother was 15 when she started the adoption process and they took care of everything and my adopting parents pay for it as apart of the adoption process. So money shouldn't be an issue, just the mother's love for the unborn baby and lack of selfishness. Adoption is the best solution.
Third: I would suggest you better educate your son about what causes babies and if he ain't old enough to care for one he ain't old enough to be doing things to make one!
2007-07-24 09:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by J-Cek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really not your choice as to whether or not that child should get an abortion. In my town, there is a girl who gave birth to her child at the age of 11. I also have a friend who's son became a father at the age of 12. It is a decision that these children make on their own, and they have to face the consequences. You cannot beat your child or un-claim him for his mistake, but he should definitely learn from it. If you feel that this baby will ruin your son's life, but then are not even 100% sure as to whether the baby is his or not, you definitely need to look into getting a paternity test (your son's life just might be spared from this situation). In the meantime, I would not suggest getting an abortion. Your son can still attend school, the baby can attend a daycare or have a sitter... financially it may be rough but honestly, your son made his bed and now he has to lay in it. Maybe. Good luck to you and yours.
2007-07-24 10:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shortie [Mama of 2] 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to help your son stand up and be a man and face the consequences. Abortion isn't the answer. Perhaps you can talk to the girl and your son, let them know that you are there and discuss adoption with them. There are some agencies where the parents can choose the family for their baby. Don't push abortion, that will only make them angry and against you. There are other options. Be a supportive mother and help them. I would seriously check into adoption if you or the other parents aren't willing to take custody of the baby.
2007-07-24 08:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Chavahleah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the girls parents. There's no reason you should have to take this young girl's word that your son is the father. If she does not want to have an abortion. Insist on an immediate signed agreement for the child to be adopted at birth but also insist on paternity test as soon as the child is born. The girl is too young to decide whether she wants to keep the baby or not, in fact by law as a minor has no say in the matter.
2007-07-24 09:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by ericbryce2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not like to be in your situation. You should talk to the parents of that girl and make a decision that is best for everyone, which in my opinion would be abortion, since 12-13 are not proper age to maintain, take care and educate a new born babe. If they do not want to go on abortion, then when the babe is born ask for testing to make sure it is your son's child. And then, carry on with the consequences. By the way, did you ever taught your son about contraception, sexuality, etc? It is important to teach children well about everything so they act responsibly.
2007-07-24 08:56:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's to young too! and it took both of them to get into this mess. By the way why haven't the parents of these 2 kids step up to the plate.
Teach sex education. It's never to young to talk about birds and bees and teaching a girl to respect herself by saying no, and a boy to masturbate if he has to. This is so sad for everyone.
I don't see why you couldn't find loving adults to adopt this child, there are thousands of wanna be parents waiting for a baby.And there are plenty of agencies and County adoption services in your area.They also help with the medical costs.
These kids are not to blame, won't change anything.
Maybe adoption should be considered, and then some intense counseling for the whole gang.
***IN THE MEAN TIME, THAT GIRL NEEDS TO HAVE
PRE-NATAL CARE, FOR A HEALTHY BABY AND DELIVERY ***
2007-07-24 09:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by kramer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be teaching your son responsibility, not how to run away from his problems... he got himself into this mess so he needs to deal with it,,,, ya, having a baby that young will change your sons life and the girls life but they need to deal with it.... a friend of mine got pregnant when she was 14 and she thought it was the end of her life... she wanted to get a scholarship for basketball and become a pro.... now she has a 3 year old daugther and she just graduated from college and high school at the same time and she has a great job. She just bought a brand new house and she is doing great... abortion is never the answer if she dosent want the baby she can give it up for adoption but it is really not your choice at all... if your son doesent want anything to do with the baby he can just pay child support... i know it sucks but thats what happens when you omake stupid decisions
2007-07-24 09:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well..its the girls choice if she gets an abortion or not..your son was responsible enough to have sex so if she decides to keep her baby then he needs to step up to the responsibility he decided on...I know it is hard for you as a mother to see this happen so young but it was his choice and now he has to live with the consequences...I hope she doesn't get an abortion..not so your son has to deal with the consequences..but just because this baby has done nothing wrong... maybe you should talk to her parents and maybe she will agree to get an adoption vs. an abortion...why harm an innocent baby.
2007-07-24 09:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do not know your religion but I can tell you that later on in life that baby will be your pride and joy. Times are different now and your son can still go to college if his mom can find strength to help him. hang in there until she has the baby and if it is not his then you educate him to not make the same situation, but if it is his he should take responsibility because it takes 2 to make a baby put yourself in the girls position as well what would you do if your sons father wanted you to abort him
2007-07-24 09:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by fire sign 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow....this is a hard situation. I think you need to talk to the girl's parents and see what they have to say about all of this. The comment you made was kind of ignorant "If she doesn't get an abortion how is it you son's fault?"...Uh because he decided to stick his lil thing in her...so he is responsible for what came out! The girl is also to blame, and I wonder where were you and her parents when all of this was going on? Talk to the parents, the girl, and your son all together and see what happens. They are both very young, but both equally as responsible!
2007-07-24 08:57:57 · answer #10 · answered by MZCARTER 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋