Is it wrong to have a baby with a man you don't want a relationship with?

Question

i an divorced and have 2 kids my pregnancies have been very complicated I want another child but I dont want a relatoinship I found a guy I get along with and he wants another kid also is it wrong to have the baby but not want the man he will be in the childs life I just dont want the relationship can you help

Answer 1

No, I'm a single mother of two soon to be three. I don't see anything wrong with it, if it's truly what you want, just make sure you get his medical history first.

Answer 2

Yes its wrong to have a baby but not want the man in the babies life. The child as well as the man have a right to know one another UNLESS the man has threatened physical harm against the child

If both your pregnancies were complicated (and both mine were too) why would you attempt to have a 3rd?

Just getting along with someone is no reason to hop in the sack and have a kid by them.

I cant believe you are asking this seriously. If you want a child without the father in its life go to a sperm bank!

Answer 3

If the father is a good friend and a good father then I don't see the problem with it. A friend of mine grew up with a girl he knew, they were best friends, they decided after all the messed up relationships they had that no relationship had ever lasted as long as their friendship had so having a baby together would be healthier for a child than if one of them had a baby with a mother/father they fought with and would eventually end up leaving the relationship. Their daughter is now 4 years old, both of them are in relationships with other people but they are great parents and they do all the things normal families do except sleep with each other and live together (they live very close to each other). My friend actually told me just a few days ago they were thinking about having another one if their current relationships fall apart within the next six months.

Answer 4

Well, morally it is wrong (in my opinion).
But just look @ the WHOLE picture... I think that you need to think this through completely. Although it may seem like a good idea now, problems WILL arise. Like who will the baby live with? Will he pay child support? What will you tell your other children? How will it effect the child? Imagine how kids feel when their parents get divorced – This is in some ways the same. The baby will not have a NORMAL life w/ both parents together. I do think it is somewhat selfish on your part to bring a baby into the world w/ such circumstances...

My advice -- Think this one through sista.
Good luck & many blessings!!!

Answer 5

Oh my.. of course not. You shouldn't have a child first of all if you've had complicated pregnancies.. risking you're health for a third child..

Also, if you don't want a relationship with this guy, then don't lead him on as if you want one. Asking to have a baby with him will obviously show him that you would want a relationship..

I think you should hold off on the baby completely, find a guy you really like, and adopt a child.

Answer 6

I dont think you are wrong. I am 36 weeks pregnant, and the babys father, is more of a friend than anything, we have decided together not to get married, and that we will just remain friends, as long as the both of you are on the same page, then go for it, tons of these people get married, and have children and put their children through messy break ups and divorce, at least your child will never have to experience this. Good luck.

Answer 7

Yes i can help, u really shouldnt have a baby with someone who u arent happy with, that can lead to another divorce, and that is very stressful on kids. Both of my parents are happily married, but one of my freinds parents is divorced,and that makes it really hard on her. I am not saying this will happen for sure, but this is very possible to happen if u dont wanna have a relationship with this guy. If u dont wanna have a relationship right now, just wait a little bit and see if u change ur mind. I really hope this helped and if u need anymore help then email me my email is: [e-mail]

Answer 8

I think that it would be fine if you are both ok with it. The only thing that I would worry about is whether or not this guy will be around to father the kid. Children need both a male and a female influence. If you two are good friends and will remain so for a long time, then maybe it is a good choice because unlike marriages, they won't end in divorce. Just make sure that it is what you both want and are ready to take responsibilty.

Answer 9

yes, its very wrong because when the children grow up, they want both parents. and im sure deep inside you want someone to be there with you and the children, to help you and just love you and the kids.
my suggestion is wait until you meet the right man, and make sure you guys are serious about each other, then you should think about having another child!

Answer 10

I don't think it is ideal, but if you and he both agree that you both want a child and do not want a relationship then I don't think it is wrong. I would think it was wrong though if he wants a relationship and you lead him to believe there will be a relationship. If he is looking for a relationship I wouldn't do it, even if he agrees that there will not be one because he will always be hoping for one and probably will pressure you about it. It would just end up being stressful for everyone.

Answer 11

Well, everyone will have their own opinion on it but I dont think its good to have a baby with a man you dont want to have a relationship with. I mean if you dont want to be with him then why have a baby with him? It seems like you're just using him to have a baby and thats not good. I understand if you really want a baby and he's a good friend and will do that for you just because but other than that, I dont think its cool.