My significant other and I work out of the same office. There is a woman with our company who comes to our office from another to train new employees. Awhile back she showed strong feelings for my significant other, and approached him with the idea of having an affair. At the time he and I were not together, and were only friends. She was and still is married and has a child. Every time she comes into our office she flirts with him. She stairs at him, smiles at him, and tries to make funny jokes. I try to remain as professional as possible, but I can't help but not like her. I find myself becoming angry with her for looking at him, or talking to him. I don't think she knows that I know she has a thing for him. I kind of feel silly that I feel this way. Should I even care? What would you do?
2007-07-24 08:34:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's hard not to even care when you know the history. Yet, you know your man and he has you and you have him, so I wouldn't worry. The only time to worry is when the person you care about acts on the proposals of the other person. It sounds like he is being faithful to you and he can't control her behavior so let it be. Nothing says you have to be friends with her though. Just be as you said, "professional".
2007-07-24 08:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's point of view - forget about it. If you don't you might end up causing a mess that really isn't worth it. Stop being so insecure. If your man wants her, then he's going to take it anyway. I would hope that you know by now where you stand in your relationship, and if he's not responding to this girl, then let it go and forget about. Jealousy is not cool - let him take care of it and trust that he will do the right thing. If he doesn't, then you're better off anyway.
2007-07-24 08:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by JD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well care enough to not let it get to the next level. the fact that your significant other is not hiding anything at all is a good step.
personally, i would walk right up to her and tell her that she simply cant do this anymore.
remind her she has a family of her own and shes no example of a human being.
then if all else fails a swift kick to the face should clear things up.lol good luck
2007-07-24 08:39:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, obviously he told you about the affair she wanted to have with him, so I'm sure there's nothing to worry about. He told you didn't he? He could've hidden it from you. Just let the b***h want what she can't have. You have him not her. Just show him that you trust him and make her believe that her little acts aren't bothering you. You know when it gets too far. That's when you step up and say something.
2007-07-24 08:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by cousin_babes902 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, I would care. You and him are together and she is married and has no respect for either herself or her husband for that matter. I would tell her politely that he is in a relationship(u don't have to tell her whom with) and that neither her husband nor his girlfriend would appreciate her flirting with him. Besides, this is being done at work and work is work not a place to pick up guys.
2007-07-24 08:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by bluemysti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my guy and i work in the same building and i wouldnt care if someone has the hots for him as long as he knows his f u cking place and that is do not give in to tempatations thats all it is...but most of the people in our building knows that we are together because they see us walking or talking to each other..
dont let it bother you..just embrace it..as long as he doesnt SAY or DO anything stupid then you will have to shut him down...
2007-07-24 08:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by jessica s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he was just a "boyfriend", I wouldn't worry about it. He's not committed to anybody and it doesn't sound like he doesn't like it. Stop being so damn jealous. Men hate that.
2007-07-24 08:39:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if i was a girl in a situation like that i wouldnt worry.talk to your husband and ask him about it. i think the silly feeling your getting is your thinking she is no harm to your relationship.. if your husband is not reacting to her i wouldnt worry.
2007-07-24 08:53:03 · answer #8 · answered by william l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should worry about it. Does he respond to her flirting? If he's with YOU then that's who he wants to be with. Anyway, if he did leave you for her, then it wasn't meant to be. You don't need someone who would do that.
2007-07-24 08:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it bothers you. If she takes things any further, you might want to talk to your SO about it bothering you. Or you could walk up and kiss him while she is near.
2007-07-24 08:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Alli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋