I always wanted to get pregnant, have a baby and be a mom without being married . I got pregnant and had the sweetest baby eight and a half months ago . My brother says God will punish me for having a baby without being married . Is there a religion that says it's okay to have a baby without being married ? Can I give him an opposing point of view or a second opinion ?
2007-07-24 08:17:59 · 49 answers · asked by Prissy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i think u should take that up with God and forget about religeon ...
2007-07-24 08:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
I agree with whoever said having a baby is a Blessing. And no I do not believe God would punish anyone for having a child in love and taking good care of the child.
There are some religions that say what your brother is saying, but remember People made up religion not God.
Your Brother forgive me for saying this seems to be very mean Spirited and I would avoid him, because he will make your life and the life of your baby a living hell.
He will make sure you are not happy. He will punish you not God.
You might consider learning about other faiths that are more accepting and joining one of them. Even the local UU church will be welcoming and not so judgmental. That way you can continue to have your faith without your brothers poison.
Remember either way you are going to have to shield your child from the things your brother says. or it may hurt the baby beyond repair.
Many Blessing to you and your baby, and good luck
2007-07-24 08:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by buffysrosebud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life does not always work out the way you think it will. You sound like a person with a good head on your shoulders and you love your child. What kind of God would punish you for not being married and having a baby? That is just absurd. Your brother will have to just accept what has happened in your life, or you should really choose to not have contact with him.. You don't need that b. s. you have enough on your plate.
2007-07-24 08:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by FridaY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I truly think that it depends on the religion. I myself am more of a Christian, and definitely believe in God. From my point of view, it's possible that he might punish you, not in some horrible way more than likely. If you'll be raising the baby on your own I'm guessing it will be hard. It depends on your situation. The first years may in someway be a "punishment" and quite hard to deal with. However, if you feel that you'd like to repent, then God forgives as it says in the Bible. On the other had, other people are atheists and don't believe in God, so their answer to your question would be "no." Good luck with your baby.
2007-07-24 08:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Veronica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If traditional religion is to be believed, then yes, God may punish you for having a child outside of wedlock. That said, traditional religion also teaches us that NONE of us are perfect and that we ALL make mistakes. The reason the marriage thing is so important is in order to promote families and to prevent the spread of diseases. I'd venture to suggest that if you live your life well and raise that baby to be a good person that will profit civilization, then you'll more than make up for depriving it of a father. In any case, it's over and done with now. So what is your idiot brother trying to prove? What is HE doing to do God's work? Criticizing you? I doubt he is any better than anyone else. Being judgemental is against traditional religion, too. Congratulations on your child, and good luck!
2007-07-24 08:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask a religion. Why would that be your focus. Why not ask God? You believe in Him otherwise you wouldn't have asked the question, "Will God punish me for having a baby without being married ?"
From what I am able to deduce, God loves and has peace with those who trust Him through Jesus Christ.
Do that then we are in the same boat!
I sin, and He forgives me. Why not you? But as it is written,
" Seek ye the kingdom first, and all other things will be added unto you."
Through Jesus we gain the peace with God that you are inquiring about. It's the same for me.
2007-07-24 08:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you shouldn't worry about what others think. You love your child and no one can take that away from you. Just because you didn't marry the father doesn't mean anything. My aunt had two with her boyfriend and realized he wasn't the one, and now she is married with someone else. God would never punish someone for raising a child alone. Just go on with your life and tune negative people like your brother out. You love your child and that's what counts.
Hope this helps you!
2007-07-24 08:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God could punish you, but only if he exists, which I very much doubt, so don't worry about it.
Tell your brother that charity and forgiveness are supposed to be at the heart of Christianity, which is something he's obviously forgotten.
There are numerous religions to choose from, but they all believe that theirs is the one true God, so even if one of them is right (which they aren't) there are going to be an awful lot of disappointed people!
Religion is a crutch for those that can't accept that we are just another insignificant life form amongst many others on an insignificant rock floating in a vast universe, and it's a crutch that I don't need.
2007-07-24 08:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by Saint George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen closely.....God doesn't PUNISH, he **disciplines**. What kind of good God PUNISHES anything or anyone? That sounds like something satan does.
Anyway, while it may be a sin to have a child out of wedlock, it is not the end of the world. As long as you are on the right, spiritual path of life, then you are good to go. That way, you and your child will lead a spiritual life and he/she will have a good upbringing. Otherwise, there could be some problems (Hint, just look at the rest of the world to see what I mean. I don't have to say anything more on that).
2007-07-24 08:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by RDF 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While having a child out of wedlock is not how God wanted you to live your life. You are human and therefore make mistakes, if you admit you messed up and ask God to forgive you your spirit will be safe. When you look at your baby can you for one minute think that God didn't give it to you? I think everything in life fits into a plan, your plan just didn't go the way that your family wanted it to go.
2007-07-24 08:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by j_n_js_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is God's desire that a child normally have a mother and father who are involved in raising the child.
Doing so by yourself can be quite burdensome, and tends to cause the woman to often be stuck in poverty.
Also, males raised without a father figure tend to develop emotional and psychological problems; moreso than "normal" whatever that is nowadays.
God is not going to punish you for this any more than anyone else who goes contrary to the will of God. A "religion" has nothing to do with it.
We are told that we will sow what we reap.
I would wonder why you would want a child without a husband? It seems a bit unusual, but commonplace today.
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2007-07-24 08:26:07 · answer #11 · answered by Hogie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋