i live with my bf and he pays all the bills, his cousin moved in with us a while back and he only pays for the cable and light, well now he wants his girlfriend to move in with us, and i really can't stand the girl!! what do you think i should do?!!? i know that i can't say much since i don't pay any bills, but should i still speak up or should i just be quiet about the whole thing!?!?
she's lazy , she's a pothead, and she is always starting crap with my bf's cousin, and everyone in their family knows this! so it's not like i dislike her for no reason, there are plenty of reasons! anyways, my question is, What should i do? and would i be out of line if i put my two cents in?
2007-07-24 08:11:15 · 8 answers · asked by Modernday_Aphrodite 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well you see my bf really doesn't like her either, but he's so close to his cousin that he doesn't want to hurt his feelings if he says no! so he's sort of in the middle of this whole thing!
2007-07-24 08:21:04 · update #1
I would discuss it with him, since he loves you, your opinions matter even if you don't pay the rent. Don't insist, but make it clear your happiness is at stake. If she uses drugs in the home, it could put you all at risk.
2007-07-24 08:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your boyfriend's house and he should be the one to speak up about it to his cousin. Of course, he will have to turn him down in the nicest possible way, which can be hard. I suggest he tell him that he didn't mind helping him out by having HIM move in, but he just can't do that for everyone. As for you putting your 2 cents in.... I would talk to your boyfriend about it, if you haven't already, but I wouldn't say anything to his cousin. You don't want to start a feud. Instead, try and help your boyfriend come up with a solution so that he knows he's not alone on this. Good luck!
2007-07-24 16:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't be out of line. You live there. That is your home. Even if you don't pay the bills, you are still a member of that household. You should be able to help make choices that affect everyone in the house. You need to speak up to your boyfriend. Also, if she is bringing drugs into the house, that puts the whole house at risk. If someone finds out, every single one of you will be in trouble until they sort out whose pot it is. Sometimes you need to protect yourself. If you cannot deal with it if she moves in, get your own place. Those are your options.
2007-07-24 15:19:24 · answer #3 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend in private, he'll respect your wishes, because all of us contacts of yours respect you- how could he possibly not!
What about your comfort-also, the drug issue- that could be a strong point, squatters end up insisting they have rights- sounds very uncomfortable, but it seems like a lose lose situation.
If your bf says no,at least you still have a comfortable home, if he says ok, then all hell breaks loose eventually, and people move out in anger.
2007-07-24 15:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can put in your oppinion because he's your boyfriend, but realize that the final decision is his, as he pays. Tell him what you're worried about, that you think it would cause problems. If she is really that awful, I'm sure he's having doubts too. Knowing you have issues with it might just tip him to your side of the fence. Hope I helped and Good luck! I hope you get what you wanted
2007-07-24 15:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you do dont have her move in .she would be a bigger proplem and make things worse for everyone involved .
put your 2 cents in trust your gut feelings and do not back down on how you feel. cause instencts that pople have are good.
potheads are never good people remember that ,and
they are never worth the harm they do cause they are all about not being responsible .and nothing good would come out it no matter what the case may be steer clear of her for good .
2007-07-24 15:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by lisah99208 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is a pothead, then that is a good enough reason itself to deny her entry into you are your boyfriend's house. You are totally right in denying access. Don't let her in!
2007-07-24 17:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Heather B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell them that all people there have to share all things ALL THINGS or...
tell them that they have to look for another place to live...
2007-07-24 17:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by marciano3002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋