and like attention, and play head games with him.
I am not a game player, and I am the last person on earth who likes drama.
THE deal is, I love my boyfriend. We have been together off and on for 7 years and have decided that we want to be together forever.
I dont want to play head games, but I want to keep him running back to me. I want to be the only one and no other girl and drama would go over me.
How do I get this? Do I play games and what games?
I just don't know how all this stupid stuff works.
One girl he dated while we were broke up had him so whipped. She made him do all kinds of things for her, and played with his head. He bent over backwards for her, and I cant even get him to carry the glass to the sink........
2007-07-24 08:09:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your boyfriend has a choice. He is in control of his life, and you two are in control of your relationship.
IF you two can't figure this one out then you both are not old enough or mature enough to be in a real relationship....
Make a choice. Your relationship is #1 or it isn't. Real easy......
2007-07-24 08:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make him want what he can't have. I have a husband, and in recent months, the more I ignore the more attention I get. Give him something to think about - the likelihood of loosing YOU. Drama is how I'm finding everyone lives. Not one person I know anymore is able to see that there is another person involved. It's be my way or no way. Well - damn it it's time for us to be that way. If he doesn't take his dish to the sink, leave it there. And don't get him another. Goodness, my mom used to take all the dirty dishes my dad said he would do - and dump them in his dresser drawers!! I love that woman! My dad is a happy man now. That certainly wouldn't fly in today's world, but its a consideration. Suggestion, every dish he leaves around - put it either in the garbage, or at best a box next to the garbage. He'll get the hint or have nothing to eat on or drink from. But also be prepared for him to argue of that you don't give him. They are quick to point out what they are not getting when backed into a corner. We have to give to receive and if he's asking of you something you can't give then don't be together forever.
2007-07-24 08:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Mystress L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On and off in relationships is always the first sign that it will not work out. You shouldn't have to play head games with a person to keep him running back to you. Sounds like you need to rethink spending forever with this guy. There can't be that many women causing that much drama just for you guys.
2007-07-24 08:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by LISA F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like after 7 years you would be able to get your head of the sand but you need help. The girls don't cause the drama. His penis and your inability to move on to a real guy who is really into you is what is causing the drama. This guy is just using you as a comfort spot and likes the girls on the side because that is who he really is. If you want to continue to be the booty call maid keep him. If you want a real relationship with someone who will treat you with some respect and real love it is time to move on.
2007-07-24 08:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he loves you - but like he loves his mom. His enthatuation with other women is what makes him go to them. He follows his captain around instead of listening to the general. You need to find someone else. No matter how hard you try sooner or later you will realize that he will never change and not because you are not "playing the right games" but because he cant either make a decision or does not want to. But the bottom line is you are going to change everything you do and 5 yrs, 10yrs, 20 yrs down the road he will be doing the same thing and you are back to square one.
2007-07-24 08:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by holykrikey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WAKE UP!!!!! You have been playing games, you wanting to keep him running back to you is a game! Have some respect for yourself! It's time for you to be on your own so you can grow up and figure out who you really are! If your boyfriend was that interested in you, no other girl could cause problems between you. It shows that he needs to be away from you as much as you need to be away from him!
2007-07-24 08:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first, why do u keep breaking up? I think that need sto be addressed first off. And if he is someones puppy basically thats his own stupidity because no one should wanna control ne one. N games? THEY SUCK @SS, so dont play them. Why dont u try being real with the guy and see how things work out? And if u guys keep breaking up obviously u were not meant for each other
2007-07-24 08:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be in a relationship where you had to play games to keep your boyfriend? The key to a lasting relationship is trust, love, communication, loyalty and friendship. If you can not fullfill these or he can't then move on to find someone you can share those characteristics with.
2007-07-24 08:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by MysteriouslyMisty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is always drama and always a woman involved, guess what, it isnt always them causing the drama but your b/f. Since this happens with different women the only constant to the behavior is your b/f. Since he doesnt want to do anything for you why arent you with someone else who might treat you better. Try another b/f and I guarantee you will never go back to this one
2007-07-24 08:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by dave n 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to me what's so great about this guy??? I would have been done with him a long time ago. Making a guy keep running back to you is a way to play games. You need to be with someone who wants to be with you and loves you regardless. Stop clinging to this bastard and find happiness with yourself. Obviously, he doesn't love youand the only reason he keeps coming back because you allow him to walk all over you. That's not love.
2007-07-24 08:18:26 · answer #10 · answered by Drowzeee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you didn't know that you two were playing a game and could he teach you. No matter how good looking he is this drama with other girls is not worth it. Let him play. There are plenty of better guys out there. Go out with your girls and go see. He most likely won't like that..... boo hoo for him.
2007-07-24 08:15:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋