To have his heart feel he can give a girl something more, then the guy she's already with. When I call her up, she sounds so soft and down, like this boyfriend is her life, theres nothing more to life, then this guy. And I don't care how this guy feels about me, cause if she's not happy then I'll take her away, but she doesn't wanna give it a try. And I get this feeling she doesn't wanna live this life, so what do I do?
2007-07-24 08:07:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wait till she herself gets an enlightenment that the world doesnt exist solely on his bf...
2007-07-24 08:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♥wildflower♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself why you are so invested in someone who isn't available and very NOT interested in you?
You can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do...but you can be her friend, but don't count on that if she does ever break up with her BF, that she is going to automatically turn to you.
Really think about what it is that you are wanting from her and why you would get so invested in someone who doesn't feel the same way about you, that you feel for her...
You guys are so romantic...thinking that you will be the Knight in shining armor that will ride in to save the day, saving the princess from the Dark Knight...the reality is that we think that we are with the right Knight...and nothing can change that until we come out of the dark...
I had lots of guy friends, and I knew that some felt about me more than I felt about them, but that didn't change anything...I stayed in the relationship I thought I wanted, and my perception of my guy friends didn't change...they were and will always be just my guy friends.
2007-07-24 15:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by hunnygril 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I went through the same thing with my boyfriend I'm finally with now. I met him in 6th grade, fell in love with him, were the best of friends and everything. He was a grade ahead of me and went to the highschool before me. He asked me out once but I said "What?" even though I knew what he said I just played dumb/was excited and happy and didn't know what to do at the same time, I think you know what I mean haha. Anyways, he would call me everyonce in a while, we'd hang out at school once I got to the highschool and we still had classes together. Then he met my "best friend" at that time. He went insane over her and I was just crushed. They argued non-stop, I wasn't allowed to hug him or talk to him because she was so controling, it was horrible! He always would call me and tell me how misreable he was and I didn;t have the heart to tell him to just dump her but then she would drag me on dates with them together and I got to be in his presence so it was all worth it, or so I thought. After about a year and a half of all this drama, they broke up! Sad to say, I was estatic! He called me and e-mialed me ALL THE TIME NOW and I cheered him up, saying how he'll find someone better (Like me!!!) and talk for hours on end and then FINALLY after 3 or four months he asked me out and we've been going strong since. It will be our 2 year anniversary Auguat 8th =] Relationships are hard, but if you love a certain person that much, you can make it work. Hopefully that "friend" of yours will open her eyes and see the man of her dreams standing just inches away from her...YOU! Best of luck, girls love a guy with a sense of humor so make her laugh and let her know you are ALWAYS going to be there for her no matter what.
2007-07-24 15:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by KatNap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know if your such a great guy then in time she is going to realize how you are and if she is interested in you she is going to give it a try. You should wait until she decides that her current boyfriend is not for her and if she wants you then you both can hook up. Just keep in mind that she might just see you as a friend k...don't get to excited and just expect the good and bad...Good luck to you...
2007-07-24 15:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by pm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life
2007-07-24 15:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make the suggestion that u can be all the man she needs and to come to you (in ure own words). If still no, just tell her that you're always there if she needs you-(and I hope that u don't wait for her forever) you'll be there.
Move on with life as best you can, and hope for the best.
2007-07-24 15:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by 4evaluvmuzic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What to do? Stop talking to this girl and start looking for someone who is available. You're wasting your time. What part of "she has a boyfriend" don't you understand? If you really want a girl, then you need to get out there and start talking to girls who do NOT have boyfriends. Otherwise you'll be waiting a long time for nothing.
2007-07-24 15:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it is. and it is quite possibly the worst feeling in the world. just last night actually, i wrote a 3 page letter, explaining exactly how i feel about everything that's going on. i wouldn't dare let her read it, but it feels really good just to let it out. start writing. if you've got balls and nothing to hide, let her read it. i burned mine afterwards... lol.
2007-07-24 15:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing u can do if she's not willing to give you a try and leave the other guy.
2007-07-24 15:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Wash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is datin someone you will have to wait. it is her decision. now if she doesnt know u like her tell her and c how she acts. then let her decide. if she says no then im avible!!!!
2007-07-24 15:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋