I would like to have another child but Im scared I might have twins again My husband is totally against it he doesnt want anymore but I want to try for 1 more I am 30 yrs old and Im not getting any younger spoke to the Dr and she says if I want more I should try soon because of my age I dont know what to do....Its my husband Im worried about we are financially stable but he just doesnt want anymore...
2007-07-24 08:01:24 · 8 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This has to be a question you answer with your husband. The last thing you want is to have kids that your husband will resent. Or to be in a situation that will lead to stress for you, your husband, and your children.
Find out why your husband doesn't want any more children. Sit down together and make a list of the reasons why you shouldn't have more children and why you should. Together, look at the list and make your decision on what is practical and will be emotionally satisfying for both of you.
This is a hard situation to be in! Your emotions are important and may be the deciding factor in your decision, but since having more children will also be his responsibility, you have to take his opinion seriously.
Best of luck!
~Kyanna
2007-07-24 08:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you trying for a girl? what if you have another boy? then do you still want another to try for a girl again? that might be what your husband is thinking of, not just more twins, but when does it end??
sometimes it is intimidating to Dads to think, How am i going to manage this, save for college, etc? Not wanting more doesn't mean that he is against kids! He just looks at it different. I think you could wait another year or two and still be fine if you are only 30.
2007-07-24 08:13:28 · answer #2 · answered by yyyyyy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how unlikely it is that you would get twins again. Explain that you really want this baby and tell him and provide information about how 5 kids could possibly work and if he really loves you, he'd do this for you. I'm not saying you should leave your husband though.
2007-07-24 08:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then i think your job would be to convince your husband why you want another one . also ask him why he does not want another child. I think that is great that you want another baby but every ones opinion should come into play here especially your husbands . you should sit down and talk with him and explain why you want another one and see where he stands on that issue . good luck .
2007-07-24 08:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want more you need to talk to him before making a decision that will affect both of you.
Marriage isn't something you do if all you care about is what you want. That said...it goes for him too. He doesn't just get to discount your needs because he doesn't want something.
You need to see if there is any room in either of your positions...but if you want more and he doesn't and there is no changing either mind one of you will have to compromise.
2007-07-24 08:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by ~T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a decission of two. The only thing you can do is try to convince him. Dont worry about the age, you are young and it is not your first baby.
2007-07-24 08:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by mfacio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have a child your husband does not want. It will not end well.
2007-07-24 08:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by Baccheus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you must respect your partner's wishes. Use the extra time and money on your family.
2007-07-24 08:09:50 · answer #8 · answered by Katyana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋