Im starting high school in a bout 5 weeks im nervous and i just want to know what is a good way to make friends and to stand out and be different?? Thank You for your time. =) p.s. I dont want to be popular or whatever but i want people to know me.
2007-07-24 07:46:48 · 36 answers · asked by your own disaster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ummm and what should i expect in high school. Thanks again!! =)
2007-07-24 07:48:51 · update #1
just be yourself not to many people do that much anymore
2007-07-24 07:49:01 · answer #1 · answered by shy_n_secertive 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Standing out could be a good or bad thing, so you want to be careful about that.
What to expect in high school? Depends - if you are a good student, and study hard, then it shouldn't be a lot harder than previous schools. If not, then prepare to study more.
Friends tend to be even more clique-ish in high school, in my opinion.
A good way to make friends is to smile at other people and don't be afraid to say hello, even if sometimes people act badly towards you.
Also, get involved in extra-curricular activities. Pick up a sport, club, or some other thing to do ... particularly group-ish type things. For instance, join a choir, band, or drama club, or perhaps one of the groups that do projects through the year (like tutor young kids, or visit the elderly). Or become involved in local politics (not necessary literally politics - maybe a volunteer organization, or a pet shelter, etc.), or join the school newspaper or yearbook staff. Go to things like school football games, dances, or other activities. Try to make friends in various circles - don't just stick with the emo kids, or the band kids, or the geek squad, or the jocks, or the .... (you get the picture). By making friends in several circles, you increase the chances of you getting to pick your friends, as opposed to you being labeled and thus limiting your friends.
Call other kids you meet, and either invite them over for popcorn and videos, or video games, or going to a "cheap seats" type movie, or other such things.
As you make more acquaintences, think about planning something like a saturday trip to a museum or zoo, or a group meeting up at a concert or parade, etc.
2007-07-24 07:56:10 · answer #2 · answered by Larry V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be different from most then all you have to do is be yourself, no untrue you, because most teens in school are trying to become most popular and different so they create an image for themselves, and thats not the real them, eventually it shatters in their faces, so be yourself and you will stand out. people will notice that your honest with them and yourself and you will stand out. I had a great time when i was in high school though that was many years ago, I dreaded graduation because i knew i wouldn't get to see my friends that much any more we all went our seperate ways, but You can expect, lots of homework thats for sure, all sorts of new people and new classes. You will also notice teachers will treat you with alittle more respect because they are aware that you are now a young woman not a child anymore, so good luck and have fun with it.... Be True.
2007-07-24 07:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by lovetherain75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself.. don't stress over what other people will think. Heck, it's probably a big school and you can't make everyone like you.
One good thing is to join activities or clubs, that way you are involved and able to meet people and able to contribute to the high school experience rather go through it. I think I would have enjoyed it more if I'd done that.
The biggest advice I can give you is don't sweat it. It's just high school and there is so much more life beyond that one four year period of your life. Have fun!
2007-07-24 07:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by DSatt57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wear what you want to wear not what people think you should wear. Or what is popular to wear. If you dont like it then dont wear it. People will respect you more for being yourself. That goes for everthing else to if you dont like the popular music dont pretend to. Its hard to not be shy at first, but try to smile at people as you walk by them, or just say hi and smile. If youi dont know people dont sit all by yourself. go up to a group of people that look friendly and ask to sit by them. tel lthem your new and kinda shy. more than likely they will be ok with it. Yes there will be the stupid guys there just ignore them. And yes there will be the stuck up b*tches there to, there all talk dont let them get to you. if you do they will keep doing it. Some Seniors can be rude cause they think there cool and will say stupid stuff, just laugh at it and dont act like it bothers you. if it does stand up for yourself. they will probably respect you for it. Be friendly, and outgoing. if you see someone in your class that is having trouble offer to help them if you can. Dont talk trash either. rumors in high school spread like wildfire. and those who you think may be your friends may really not be. if you talk trash about someone you better be ready to back it up and talk to that person face to face. Another way of joining is is playing sports, or music, or a club. most high school have after school activitys. that way you guys have to work as a team and comunicate with each other.
hope this helps
2007-07-24 07:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by ruffianjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be comfortable with yourself and friendly. Start a few conversations, see if you meet anyone cool. If you feel awkward and nervous on the first day, it's no big deal, I always feel like crying the first day. Walking around all the jittering people talking to and hugging their friends, looking for your friends, wishing you weren't at school.
2007-07-24 07:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not popular eh? That's new. With such a fresh outlook, I'd say be the innocent cute girl that's kinda gothic (not in the black kind of way but eyeliner and dark nail polish), and get REALLY good grades. everyone will know u. we had a girl like that and basically every guy had a thing for her, and she didn't care, and man that was even better.
2007-07-24 07:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being yourself in high school is usually different enough for anyone to stand out. There's usually a lot of pressure to be like everyone else, but if you maintain your self, be a friend and open to friendships, you'll do all right.
2007-07-24 07:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by Palmerpath 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B yourself. Do not go to school trying to be something u r not just to fit in. When making friends, try to recognize your similarities that you have with each other. You do not want to only fit in with others - you want others to fit in with you as well. Get in some school activities like - Debate Team, swim team, football, soccer, etc. Whatever you decide to be active in - make it your best. Try and become the President of the Club or Vice President.
2007-07-24 08:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by spreetray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Trust me, when its all over you will feel alot better.
The key is critical thinking and a liberal outlook. Dont feel the need to conform to a certain group to be accepted. Its a good thing to seek friends from all walks of like and for them to 'genuinly' like you for who you are.
You want people to know you sure - but make it a positive thing. Question things, be interested, educate yourself, stand up for what u believe and use the time to help find out who YOU are.
2007-07-24 07:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by jon d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and try to be outgoing and friendly. If you smile alot, people will want to know you. You are starting with a clean slate so you can really be who you want to be. I know you will be fine and I am sure you'll make plently of friends!
Just make sure you choose nice people and stay away from the older guys b/c they are no good!
Good Luck!
2007-07-24 07:51:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋