2007-07-24 07:34:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is no nice way or anyway! You should have thought about that before you decided to play house and have 2 kids. You can't EVER leave them, your stuck till death do yall part. You have 2 kids with this girl so whether yall are in a relationship or not, she will always be in your life. Welcome to the real world suck it up and go out with your friends on saturdays and stuff, the closedt thing your getting to freedom in saturday night and bed time. You chose to be a man there's no do overs in life, so take care of your kids like a good father would and learn to deal with your stress, b/c thats all it is, you just need some alone time with out the kids and girlfriend. How do you think your girlfriend feels, she def. probably needs some freedom from the kids and you, ( cuz i know you be difficult). but she can't stop being a mother just cuz she's tired. It's funny how as soon as it starts to get rough some men are so quick to get up and leave all their life repsonsibiblites. Those kids still need a roof over their head, clothes on their back and food in their stomachs, books for school, unless you want them on welfare, cuz thats whats going to happen if your girl doesn't make some good money.
If you leave them your kids will despite you their whole life, Do you want to be another DEAD BEAT DAD??!? I'm sure you don't want that title, so do what you have to do and go on a vacation.
Good Luck! ♣ Do the right thing!
2007-07-24 07:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by ♥NotJustaPrettyFace♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence so to speak.
Ask yourself what freedom means. Go out when you wish and sleep w. someone when you wish? The world is full of guys who do this and then realize they had something. First work on what the problems may be like space (why do you think guys play golf), going out with the guys (one night a week or hang with other guys with responsibilities at happy hour for a bit) or many other things. Think about what you want and being an adult.
The usual thing that happens is the guy leaves so he can hang w. his buds. The buds start growing up, get serious girlfriends and stop hanging so much. It could take a long time but eventually you become "that friend" with other couples.
Then you find yourself searching for the very thing that you had. Wishing that you might have tried harder, done something differently or whatnot. And years later trying to explain to your kids why you took off when they have a step father who has always done the right thing. But with you paying a major portion of your pay for support.
Bottom line is consider carefully. If things are so bad just leave because the end will be the same if you can't work on your relationship. But just slip out and she will take you financially bigtime. The day you walk out and close the door take a moment and realize that it will impact your life forever.
Its hard to explain on answers.
2007-07-24 08:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think you want to here this... but leaving would only make things much worse. I would advise talking to your girlfriend maybe you can work out some type of a schedule to give you both some freedom. But your not going to get all the freedom back its a sacrifice you made when you had those kids. My first step would be to talk to your girlfriend.
good luck.
2007-07-24 07:43:16 · answer #3 · answered by No. 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave. If that's the way you feel, they're better off without you anyway. You should've thought about that before you got her pregnant. On some level She prob. misses something about the pre-kid era too. Does that mean you should both kick the kids to the curb to fend for themselves? Oh..by the way..I have 5 kids by my guy who's stood by me every step of the way. What the heck is wrong with you?
2007-07-24 07:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by brutally honest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start abusing drugs. BIG TIME. Pop, smoke, and drink whatever you can get your paws on. Be such an unreliable son of a buck that she'll leave you. It'll be a lot of fun...believe me ;-). And if she decides to leave you, there's no guilt because she's the one that's breaking up the family. It's a win-win. No need to pay me for the info. Just have your freedom-lovin' soul buy me a brewski at the bar once you get out of this mess.
2007-07-24 09:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by alonzo_spellman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these are your kids and you are wanting to leave them so you can be FREE, that is sad, very sad. Not to mention leaving the mother of your children high and dry to take care of children you created TOGETHER! What if she wants her freedom and wants to leave the kids and you? How would that make you feel?
2007-07-24 07:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by Topless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a gf with 2 kids? What's wrong with you? Are you interested in her or the kids?Just pack up your **** and leave-NOW! It's that easy I do it all the time.
2007-07-24 07:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by overworkedtiredmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a b/f with 2 kids and we are expecting a 3rd. I would be completely devastated. Just always remember that the grass isnt always greener on the other side.
2007-07-24 07:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm the nicest thing would be to sign over the house, all your bank accounts and all your future earnings to your wife and kids...
Are you that nice?
2007-07-24 07:41:03 · answer #9 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack up and leave-in the middle of the night when everyone is sleeping is the best way. Live Free!
2007-07-25 02:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋