Ok i just met this guy and we have been talking for a week. I juss went on a date with him last nite for ice cream and then went home. He tried nothing with me but then again this is the first date. When I got home my mom starts drilling me about him like what he does, who is he and does he call often and juss every question about his background! She gets up this afternoon and asks me the same questions! And all this overprotective stuff makes me not wanna have a b/f! But yet she always wants me to have a b/f... but how can I when she is so overprotective? How can I stand up to her?
2007-07-24 07:20:20 · 8 answers · asked by MIZZ K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 18... and this guy is 20
2007-07-24 07:52:17 · update #1
my dad is like that but lately he is not as protective
i think he grew out of it or something
2007-07-24 07:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by jonnyraincloud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not overprotective - just nosy. Either way it's awful.
OK so tell her all about this guy - volunteer information - and even say a few things about him you're not happy with - like maybe he has a dorky hair cut or has big feet or short arms something not-too-serious.
But mostly say nice things - he's very gentlemanly - didn't try anything with me - treated me like a lady. Makes OK money/grades whatever.
Then say, Well, he's a nice guy but I really don't want a steady right now. I mean, I"m only ___ and there are all kinds of nice guys out there. But right now, he's pretty nice. But really, I'm not looking to settle down any time soon. Gosh I have college to plan for.
Oh but Barry really is a nice guy. He asked if we could go to the movies on Friday - how about I ask him to come a little early so you can meet him?
That will go a long way towards placating Mom.
Thing is, make sure you follow all the rules - whether it's calling in every so often or meeting curfew. Mom sounds like a tyrant who would ground you in a heartbeat if she could.
2007-07-24 07:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till YOU have kids...lol...then you will understand. We live in a rotten society today, whether you realise it or not. She just wants to be sure you are safe. Introduce him to her and let things go from there. Invite him over for games or video or something so she can get to know him some. This will put her mind at ease. As a parent myself, I understand where she is coming from, but you MUST understand too. She isnt trying to make your life miserable, just worried about you. Don't you have a good friend YOU worry about. same thing. If your best friend was dating some guy who was a scum bag would you tell her or try to get her away from them? Don't YOU want to know all about your best friends guys she dates. and vice-versa? When it is between friends it isn't prying, then why do you consider it prying when your mom asks you the same stuff? THINK ABOUT IT.
2007-07-24 07:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, shes your mom and she loves you. These are only questions after all. Just explain to her that you do intend to pursue these questions but you do not want to scare the guy off right away. You do not have to stand up to her, how about a compromise like one question per date. He may even volunteer the answers without you asking the questions. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-07-24 07:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Canuck1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom is the same way. Though the "motherly instincts" didn't kick in until after a week after my BF and I have been together. But she tells me he's bad news blah blah blah. I just keep telling her how much I love him and how no matter what anyone says he isn't going aywhere any time soon...
2007-07-24 07:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be something entirely different.....
How about she enjoys hearing the things you're doing. It could be a while since she's dated and she wants to know what younger people are doing now.
I sometimes do this with my daughter simply because I'm curious.
2007-07-24 07:24:42 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, how old are you? If you're a legal adult, then you can respectfully tell her that you'll share information when the right guy comes along. If you're a minor, then her questions are fair...give up the goods to her.
2007-07-24 07:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by Katyana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur mom is correct and u should collect all the things and tell her, then she will not have fear and will allow u to go with him.
2007-07-24 21:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋