I gave a nice wedding shower present off the registry so I thought I'd just give money for the wedding. Do I bring that in a card with me or send it ahead? If I bring it, should it be in cash or a check ? If I should send it, I'm sure that should be in a check to be safe, but do I send it to where the bride-to-be lives with her husband-to-be or to her parents' home? Do I make out a check to Mr. and Mrs. To-be-married-name?
Also, any comments on just money as a gift are welcome. Thanks!
2007-07-24 07:15:53 · 21 answers · asked by kiaradaze 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Most weddings just have a box to put cards in for people who opt to give money, so I just bring it to the wedding.
2007-07-24 07:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Katie J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UNSOLICITED (not asked for) monetary gifts are fine - especially if you already gave a different gift earlier. In fact, you really don't need to give a gift at all - especially because you have already gifted the bride and groom.
You are indeed generous.
That story about covering the cost of your dinner is a lot of hoo-hah. Baloney. Give what you feel you can afford to give. A bride is in no position to whine. AND - guests shouldn't be expected to PAY for a party.
Bring the money with you - in the form of a check addressed to Mr. & Mrs. MarriedName.
If you choose to send money by mail, of course a check is in order - and it could be sent to either the couple's address - or the parents of the bride. I'd send it to the POB just so someone else knows you sent a gift - otherwise it could be easily lost.
Never give currency. It's too easy to lose. With a check, you can stop payment and reissue if you need to.
2007-07-24 07:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is a great wedding gift.
Do not send the monetary gift.
Place the money (cash or check) in an envelope with a wedding card. There will be a reception line, where the new bride and groom greet their guests and receive their gifts. When you go through the line, give your card to either bride or groom.
(If you decide on a check, Mr. & Mrs. is proper)
2007-07-24 07:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a monetary gift, like cash or a check, it is perfectly acceptable to hand it to the bride directly at the reception. Many cultures actually encourage a bride to have a little silk money purse to carry around at the reception for a place to put cash gifts. Cash is a fine form, but if you wish to be a little more secure, one of those Visa gift debit cards that spend the same as cash is ideal. I wouldn't do a check unless it is a very big amount of money, because the bride would probably like to bring any money she receives at the reception with her on her honeymoon for spending cash. Have a good day!
2007-07-24 07:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience as I was just married in May, I would say bring it to the wedding with a nice card. Every wedding I've been to had some sort of box, basket, cage, etc. set up for gifts and cards. You could really do either cash or check or even gift cards. But much like our situation, I know for a lot of bride and groom's, they usually leave the next day for their honeymoon and the next day usually ends up being a Sunday so banks aren't open to cash the checks. I appreciated whatever we received but the cash was more convenient.
2007-07-24 07:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bring the $ and card to the wedding. Cash would be best for the bride and groom because bank are very picky about correct names on checks. Give the married couple $40-$50.
2007-07-24 07:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by blue eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend not bringing any gifts to a wedding, even if it's just an envelope with a check. Gifts at a wedding can get lost in the shuffle, also, someone has to worry about transporting it.
I suggest sending it before the wedding, made out to either the bride in her maiden name, or groom (whoever you're closer to), with a note on the check that it's a wedding gift.
2007-07-24 07:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, money is fine, and either is fine: send a check made out to the couple. mr and mrs...... or bring a check to the wedding in a wedding appropriate envelope to put with the other gifts made out to the same.....
Money as a gift is fine.... some people say its not proper wedding ettiquette, but the truth is: i been to several and given money almost every time unless i bought something from the register.... and they appreciate that too so they 1) dont have to return the 10th toaster and 2) can buy what THEY want with money!!
Dont stress it!!
Youre welcome~!
2007-07-24 07:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide to do seems OK to me. Just make sure you write a check so there is a record of it in case it gets lost . I no longer give cash as I had a very bad experience a while back .
At most weddings there is a fancy box or container to receive the cards .Seems safe to me !
2007-07-24 07:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can bring you to the wedding they will have a designated place for their cards. You only send the wedding gift before if it is a package. That way the bride and groom do not have to deal with bring the package home on their wedding night
2007-07-24 09:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most couples just starting out love money as a gift, it often can help pay for the honeymoon or house, etc. People at my wedding brought cards with either cash or checks with them to the ceremony, but it depends on the atmosphere. My husband and I financed almost our entire honeymoon with that money (but we weren't very extravagant).
2007-07-24 07:26:46 · answer #11 · answered by CEKNB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋