My boyfriend cheated on me before and we decided to work it out but I think he's back at it again. I found a girls number in his phone that he used to talk to and when I asked him about it he said that they just talked on the phone when I neglected him, I thought he was full of s*** and told him so.Am I over reacting or should I let this relationship go and move on (we've been together for 3 years)?
2007-07-24 06:54:42 · 32 answers · asked by Honey Gurl 951 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he still has her number he obviously still has feeling for her. You need to move on he is never going to change. If he has a problem he needs to come to you not her!!! Good luck
2007-07-24 06:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if he was a chronic cheater or it was a one time thing. Has he cheated on other girlfriends? If this is a chronic pattern then he will probably not change unless he gets a major kick in the *** and lots of therapy. If it was a one time thing then there is a chance he learned from his mistake.
If he needs to be comforted by another woman when you 'neglect' him, you need to ask him about this. Does he feel somehow dissatisfied with this relationship? If so maybe he needs to find a new girlfriend or try to make it better with you. Is sex with someone else OK when he feels you're neglecting him? Does he feel entitled to cheat when you don't give him exactly what he wants, meaning the cheating is really your fault? These ARE attitudes of a cheater and you need to see if they exist in your boyfriend.
2007-07-24 07:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's fair to consider someone an eternal cheater because they cheated once. However, if you have lost the trust you once had in him, then your relationship with him is pretty much dead. Before long, you are going to question his every move and that will eventually terminate the relationship. Don't stress yourself out about what he is doing when he is not with you. If you don't trust him, leave him or you can try to go on in the relationship and see if your trust comes back. If it doesn't, move on.
2007-07-24 07:01:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people get caught up in the moment. Not acceptable, but I can see why people will forgive such an event.
Persistent meetings/calls/txts etc.... are a sign that your partner is either unhappy....or just a plain a**hole. Sometimes it can be someone they used to be close to and find hard to let go of - but even so this is unacceptable and they should find a way of either dealing with this or ending a relationship which is unfair on the other party.
2007-07-24 07:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by jon d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. If you feel guilty for leaving a 3 year relationship then don't, just live with all the lies and cheating he's goin to be doin. Is it really worth it that you still want to be with him after all these years and what he has done to you? For me, I would just leave him and find me another man. He will then have all the girls he want and he can hurt that girl that's he is goin to be with instead of me bein in her position gettin hurt. Ask yourself, IS it worth it?
2007-07-24 11:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got to understand that since he cheated on you before, you've got some baggage and insecurity about it happening again. You've forgiven, but you haven't forgotten, and you're absolutely in the right in your train of thought. And come on, he admitted that when he felt neglected he talked to another girl on the phone. What would've happened if you'd "neglected" him for another week? His intentions are clear; he wants attention and doesn't care where he gets it from. What you're doing isn't an overreaction, it's a perfectly justified response to his behavior. Show him to the door and enjoy some "me" time.
2007-07-24 07:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sunnishine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know him better than any of us. However, it has been my experience that a cheater will continue to cheat until he finds that someone to whom he wants to remain faithful. He should understand that in order to regain YOUR trust, he must be above board about everything in his life. The cloak of a liar or cheater is not one easily thrown off.
2007-07-24 07:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by 8-) Nurf Herder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you that some people can change and some cant I cheated on my boyfriend and he gave me another chance and I have been good since. So I would go with your gut instinct. If you feel hes cheating again your probally right. We woman have a great instinct on if our man is acting diffent.
2007-07-24 07:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together for 3 years than I think you have developed a communication ability in which you can talk to each other about problems, ask him to talk to you about whats going on, he might find it dumb at first but you never know, you might discover the truth.
2007-07-24 06:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by Noe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off let me say once a cheater does not mean always a cheater. i once before and then it has never ever crossed my mind ever again. i felt horrible but ya i think you should move on
2007-07-24 06:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Crazy ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋