Guys: If you were dating a girl for over a year and they occasionally told you that they weren't attracted to you, or got upset because you didn't wear what they wanted you to wear or shave when they wanted you to shave or get a haircut when they wanted to get one or if they told you that they didn't think you'd be able to provide a future for them, even though you've busted your @$$ to get where you are, and maybe it's not where you should be in life, but it's where you are for now and you're really trying to improve on that, would you stay with her?
Girls: put yourself in my position if a guy told you he wasn't attracted to you, etc., etc., would you stay with him?
2007-07-24 06:53:00 · 13 answers · asked by C C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, No, No, need i say more. If a person is this disrespectful dropping this many hints and sounds that controlling it is time to move on. Anyone who considers staying has more invested in the relationship then the other and needs to face the reality that it would not be beneficial for them to stay in this situation and they need to move on to someone better. I don't stand for disrespect from anyone especially in a relationship I'd be gone before the guy could blink because I know what I'm worth.
2007-07-24 07:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by smilesnfayth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't stay and neither should you! No one should have to settle or put up with someone else's crap. That is not the point of a relationship. You should never stay just because you are comfortable and that is what most people do. Love has nothing to do with putting up with abuse (emotional, physical or otherwise). This is not love or a truly compassionate relationship. No one should ever treat anyone they supposedly love this way. Get out before you get yourself into a bad situation (i.e. divorced with innocent children)....it's not worth it.
2007-07-24 14:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by Manda Panda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, you are kidding right? why do you let her disrrespect you like that? why dont you ask her some of the same questions like, "how are YOU bettering yourself for the future?" or "why dont YOU wear more makeup/workout/dress better?" BUT if you truthfully are putting no effort into maintaining the relationship or yourself then disregard what i said and let her go find someone else.
2007-07-24 14:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by get_rich1125 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no. That girl can go jump in a ditch. The last thing i need is some girl telling me what i need to especially when I'm trying to improve on them. And i definitely don't need this girl telling me that I'm not attractive.
2007-07-24 14:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. 3.14™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello.I would cut my losses and walk away, it doesn't sound like it will go any where sadly, it will be hard short term but the best thing to do long term. I am sure you will do the right thing in the end. Very best of luck to you.
2007-07-24 14:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your partner should always think you are attractive, be proud of you for working hard, and not be so shallow to fight about clothes, hair cuts etc. You can do better.
2007-07-24 13:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by girlnextdoor409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, if i loved her, i'd stay with her
however, if things were like on the verge of breaking...i'd tell her if she doesnt like who i am, why is she the one coming home everyday to me. plus...i would believe if she was acting like this, there's gotta be a guy on the side she is hiding
2007-07-24 13:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by paulzy_jlp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With that logical I saw at least 7 reasons why it would not work.
2007-07-24 14:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by spencer4571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, of course not, when you put it that way!
2007-07-24 13:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask?
Bail and run!
2007-07-24 13:57:10 · answer #10 · answered by Michael H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋