He is very stubborn and everytime I attempt to tell him how i feel it ends up with me feeling bad about it. I want to be with him. But ive always been told if you cant trust him why are u with him. We've been together for about 6 years and for the past few months he seems to have become more secretive about everything, Even the most simplest things. Someone Please help. I need some guidance & advice.
2007-07-24 06:45:37 · 27 answers · asked by DaZeDnCuNfUzeD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have trusted him before.(Just for the record.) i want to make this work but it almost seems like its not worth it anymore. i dont know what else to do.
2007-07-24 07:40:41 · update #1
dump the loser
2007-07-24 06:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Satan Lives! God must Die 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is how he's always been, why have you stayed with him for SIX YEARS?! If you didn't trust him in the beginning, you should have broke up with him a long time ago instead of investing all this time and energy into a relationship that has dead-ended.
If he's being secretive about everything he's doing, even the most mundane and simplest things, and you can't get him to talk to you about any of it, then you don't really have that great of a relationship to try to save and you should just let him go now.
Save yourself any more of a headache or heartache since this jerk isn't worth a single second more of your time.
2007-07-24 06:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant trust him, you have nothing. In a relationship you have to be able to trust the person. Otherwise you will end up wondering what he is doing, who he is with ect. every minute of the day. And it will only hurt you. I know how that is because I've been there before. And it is not fun. Maybe you should go out somewhere nice and have dinner and then after go somewhere where you to can be alone and tell him you need to talk to him about something important.
2007-07-24 06:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cole.Baby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is like a vase, once it is broken, its broken. You can glue the pieces back together with time and work but it still won't hold water the way it did in the beginning. Six years is a long time to be with someone. It would be worth it to save the relationship but you have to be truthful to yourself. Can you really see the two of you together six more years?
2007-07-24 06:51:32 · answer #4 · answered by wazup_dude2007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unlike this guy up above who thinks he's cheating on you (based on zero evidence), the issue here isn't even about cheating. It's about whether you can trust your boyfriend.
Everyone who has earned trust deserves to be trusted until they give you a reason otherwise. Has he cheated in the past?
Whoever told you that you can't be with someone you don't trust is correct, and your boyfriend may very well be acting out because he can tell that you don't trust him. It works both ways.
I think you should break up and move on.
2007-07-24 06:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your at the age were you can marry you should have married him. Well men don't want to wait six years to get married. Well maybe he's just tired of waiting and he is believing he can't tell you things anymore and he is probably feeling he is being pushed away from more and more so you should take y advice and sit down and talk to him.
2007-07-24 06:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by ghettoboy57 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in ur shoes before
try to work things out with him without pressuring him
talk to him ask him what wrong
and how does he feel about the relationship
ask him if u think the relationship has improve thru time or what
trust is a hard thing to gain and to maintain
if u dont trust then u need to work on it
if work on it and still feel the same then u need to decide if its best to walk away
trust me without trust theres no relationship
u will constantly fight about petty things and u will end up feeling insecure about your self
good luck
2007-07-24 06:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by simple J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down once more with him and make him listen. Tell him that if he is cheating or wanting to date someone else, you will move on without him.
Honesty and communication are very important in every relationship. If you do not have either of them, then you do not have a relationship. If he can't be honest with you, it is time to move on. Don't waste 7 years with him if he isn't willing to work on YOUR relationship.
Hugs to you and best wishes.
2007-07-24 06:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont have trust after 6 years then you need to talk to him on a seriuos level and let him know how you feel. If he cant be trustworthy then you cant be together. If he wants you bad enough he will change.
2007-07-24 07:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by M.J. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, just sit back and enjoy your independence. Go out and meet other people, don't marry him and have kids. He sounds bored, and probably wants to date other people. This is normal especially after 6 years. Most people don't date that long and usually break up or get married.
2007-07-24 06:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that happened with my boyfriend. When guys become more secretive that means that they are starting to not like you anymore, or they are hiding something. If they cant be truthful to you anymore, or tell u wuts up, you have to dump him, or tell him how you feel and want to know wuts up. Dont feel bad bout askin this, you are the one that is getting hurt. And if he ignores it a bit or says stuff like " its nothin" or "whatever" U MUST DUMP HIM. You CANT be with guys like that!
2007-07-24 06:50:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋