do you think im ugly or fat? please I need advice!?

Question

ok so i feel very unattractive lately and fat and my husband is so good lookign and always getting message on myspace form other girls so you can see my pics at http://www.myspace.com/amymagin please be honest

Answer 1

YOUR FINE, DON'T BE SO UNSECURE ABOUT YOURSELF

Answer 2

Well, your not ugly...and fat from what I can see...just be glad your not anorexic

I always worried about how ugly I thought I was and used many things to help me...

TIPS for you:

1) Just smile more...it brightens up your face (use baking soda to brush your teeth with...then toothpaste after you brush with the baking soda for good smelling breath...its proven that it whitens your smile)
2) I can't tell if you have acne, but if you do, use a tspn of lemon juice and a tspn of ground cinnamon and mix it and apply to the affected areas---works great)
3) Blackheads? Use Elmers glue and just peel it off...along with the blackheads...or take a hot shower and squeeze them

MAKEUP

1) To bring out your eyes...use browns and bronzes...or light purple eye shadow...for your skin complextion I suppose (I'm fairer skinned)
2) Use lipgloss...it makes your lips shinier

EXERCISE
1) In the morning, do some cardio (running) for a half an hour -hour each day (On the lifetime channel at 7:00 am Eastern Time there is a GREAT program)...normally they don't use weights either---so you can work on your legs, arms, stomach, etc.!

NUTRITION

1) High protein, low carb diet is the best (look at nutrition stats)...you can still have chocolate too
2) Not too much sodium (Fat doesn't matter that much)

But eat what you like...I do and i'm not at all overweight...you can still have all the good food

Your hair is nice (drinking water makes it look shinier)

But you look fine...to me you meet your on the same "beautiful" level as your husband, honestly

But I heard over time you get prettier!

Answer 3

I don't even need to see your picture to know that you are none of those:) Don’t ever look down upon yourself or ever think for a minute that you aren’t good enough for someone. In a marriage, you deserve to be with someone that loves you for who you become when you are with them, and not who you were the moment he married you. Husbands and wives grow and change together. Nobody stays the same forever.

I'd tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are worried that he finds you unattractive. It won’t be easy bringing it up, but when it comes to relationships, there shouldn’t be any awkwardness if it involves that relationship. Be brave, tell your husband how you feel. He will appreciate that you care enough about him to worry that you aren't pleasing him.

There are only two things that can happen and the worst is that he does indeed feel less attracted to you. If this is the case, you can see it in two different lights. The first is that you can see this as a test to your relationship. No good relationship has ever gone untested. Make goals together to work out at it. Go to the gym together, show him that you are working at it. Tell him you’ll need his support and if he loves you for you, he’ll be onboard with anything he can help. The other light is to realize that he doesn’t love you for you. He only loved you for what you looked like. If that is the case, he doesn’t deserve you. You are beautiful.

The other thing that can happen is that he may dismiss that idea out of your head. But you have to give him that chance. Tell him what’s bothering you because it’s hard for other people to guess this kind of thing. He might think nothing is wrong.

Just try to remember akc, he probably married you for many reasons, not just because of the way you think you look. Talking to him may just refresh your memory on some of those other reasons that you’ve long forgotten. And if there weren’t any other reasons, I wont feel sorry for you. You will be better off with someone who cares about you, than with him:)

And about the myspace messages, remember that out of all those girls, your husband chose you. That’s all that’s important.

Good luck hun.

Answer 4

You are very pretty no worries!! If u feel unattractive you could always spend a little time at the gym, that seems to work for me, even if i just go for two days i know that there probably isn't much of a physical difference but yet it boosts my confidence.

Answer 5

You are not ugly of fat, we all have days when we feel like that.Take a day to pamper your self , get your hair done ,a manicure, pedicure etc. you will feel better and feel more attractive. You just may be in a rut and just need to get out and do some thing fun.

Answer 6

No sweety you are not fat, you should find what thing made you feel that way,thats all...go out, have some fun and then u will see the difference! Thats what your husband needs,an independent and confident wife! dont be strict with yourself its not fair xxxx

Answer 7

Girl,
You need to get out more and get a life. You are beautiful and I am pretty sure your husband thinks the world of you. The only thing not attractive about you is your uncertainty about yourself.

Answer 8

Well you are very insecure. that much I can tell. Men love confidence, and you don't seem to have any. when you don't think much of yourself, neither do other people. You seem desperate for validation. Please, do yourself a favor and go get some self confidence and self esteem. Once you do this, you won't need validation from strangers. I guarantee your husband will notice your new found confidence and appreciate it. Just don't fake it.....he'll notice that too. BTW i would rate you about a 5....very average and plain.

Answer 9

What other people doesn't matter - you should never let the opinions of strangers, or your physical image, determine your self-worth.
What do YOU think? This is YOUR body, the only one you will ever have - are you going to let someone else convince you it isn't good enough, or are you going to embrace it for the wonder that it is?

Answer 10

I don't think your ugly or fat in any way and obviously you husband doesn't think so either or he wouldn't have married you in the 1st place. Here's a good quote to think of I had it told to me a long time ago, while it may not pertain to your exact situation I think it'll help.

"People are gonna talk about you. Especially when they envy you and the life you live... let them. You affected their lives... they didn't affect yours."

Answer 11

Sweetie I think you are very beautiful and ya husband should be worried, from a female's point of view, don't get me wrong he's handsome but you are beautiful and don't seem fat to me.Just love yourself more