I'm asking because my friends girlfriend is mad at him because he admitted he watches pornography. They are not having sex or doing anything yet, so I told him it's alright for now, but apparently she's disgusted and wants him to stop.
My take is, guys have a sexual urge, and its alright to "quench" it in harmless ways like watching porno, especially if they're not having sex yet. It's not like he's cheating on her. But ladies I want to hear from you, why might this disturb or upset you?
2007-07-24 06:31:52 · 23 answers · asked by Randolph 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a guy, but I will give my take on this. When not in a relationship I can understand the "need" as men are visual by nature. But in a relationship, I believe it is wrong, even if the relationship is not sexual yet, because it takes away from the other party, and takes some of the humanity out of it.
2007-07-24 06:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Travis McGee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully it upsets me because its hard not to look at it as him choosing some other girl over me. These girls are considered perfect, every guys fantasy and that is something i will never be. So its a self esteem thing. But at the same time I don't say anything to my man because I know that he still loves me and still finds me attractive. I would suggest to your friend, if they are both of age, to find a pretty calm porn and encourage his girl to watch it with him. Its embarrassing the first couple times but it does open up new avenues. Of course they shouldn't do it if it is going to encourage them to have sex when they aren't ready.
2007-07-24 13:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by wazup_dude2007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you except about the sex part. Men naturally are more inclined to want sex than women and pornography is a perfectly harmless way to let off steam without cheating.
2007-07-24 13:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a guy and I have to answer. Most of porn feature girls, don't they? So how do you think a girl will feel thinking that you are spending time watching the nudity and sexual prowess of other girls? She believes it would spoil her sexual experience with you because you are not entering the experience with her as a fresher; you already have ideas! If she does not meet up your ideas, the relationship might be destined for the crash. These and more are her concerns... Girls, am I right?
2007-07-24 13:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by Professor 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ewww yes it would disturb me if my guy was and i would be upset also i mean he should be able to control the urge. And be able to wait till we were both ready to quench his urge but i wouldn't want him looking for another way to fix it he should be able to wait. When he waits it shows that he only wants his girl to quench his need and is willing to wait for her instead of going and fixing it in other ways. That just shows that even with out her he can still enjoy something that should be for the both of them
2007-07-24 13:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Misty H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as women, for the most part, we don't want "our" guys looking at other women's personal parts. We want them to be satisfied w/ our bodies, not lusting after fake, plastic unrealistic fantasies. Some women watch porn w/ their partners, which is fine. But, doing it behind your partners back is just as cheating, especially in her mind, as having sex w/ another partner. You're receiving pleasure due to sight of someone other than your g/f, how is that NOT cheating?
I understand that it's not as big a deal to guys as us women, but this friend will just have to decide if looking at porn is worth losing a real, physical woman.
2007-07-24 13:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i have to say ive been ticked off over the same thing. it more of a unsercure thing than anything. maybe the girl feels like her man is thinking about the hott chics on the movie wishing he was with someone like them instead of her..
she may also worry that e will expect her to do some of the same things as shown on porn.
2007-07-24 13:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your friends gf is just a snob, it's fine to watch porno in a relationship, it's a movie not like your going to join in on the movie itself, usually open couples watch porn together, she needs to grow up and move on
2007-07-24 13:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by lil_play_boy_bunny 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only maturity will help her out.
He needs to take of himslef, and realize that she is just an insecure and young female, as I once was.
One day, not anytime soon, she will watch porn with her man (not your friend, likely) as an experiment, and may even liek it.
One day, when she's bored with her regular sex life.
She doesn't get it, she won't for years, so tell him to let it go.
I don't recommend lying, but whatever. If he has to pretend e won't for her, then so be it.
She'll grow up eventually.
2007-07-24 13:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is because of insecurities with one self. I use to get pissed off when my boyfriend watched. I was afraid I wouldn't rate compared to the babes in the movies. But now I could care less.
2007-07-24 18:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by shelleyawhite2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋