Should I Stay w/ him or kick him to the curb? HELP ME ASAP!!!!?

Question

My bf has been in and out of jail since we started dating in 2004 and we have 2 kids he hasen't made a effort to support us. Were still living with my parents.Everytime i start my schooling he always wants me to be there for him and I missed almost a year of school just cause he asked me to and if i don't he thinks im messing around or i dont love him So should i stay with him or should i move on and start a new life for my babies>>> ButI Love him very MUCH

Answer 1

Lets see. Has love gotten out of your parents house? Has love kept him out jail? Do you have a better job because of Love? Has Love putting food in your kids mouth? Has love allowed you to finish school?

You are a mother now, and everything else is second. If this guy is not going to man up and support those kids and get you up out of your mommas house, then you need to do it.

Stop thinking that half a man is going to jump and change your life to extent that you living good.

And do not have any more kids until you are straight yourself. Stop laying up with him and wake up!

You owe to it God, to those kids, and yourself to be the best parent that you can be.

Love allows you to grow, not to be held back. What is your 5 five plan? You really need to reevaluate your priorities.

Answer 2

If this is the way he's been since you've known him you already know the answer to this-let him go, you have 2 children to worry about and think about your parents, they've already raised one family and if they are anything like most parents including mine-they don't want the pressure of raising yours too. I'm sure you do love him and you have to ask yourself if you are better than this and if your children really need a role model like him-daddy or not. I'm sure you are a beautiful woman that is just been misguided-get away from the situation and find a man who will love all 3 of you. Go to school girl! If you have that opportunity, take it! Think of the future and all that you COULD be without him-then think of what your lives will be like if you stay with him or continue playing his childish games.

Answer 3

This guy seems like he just wants to keep you down like he is. He doesn't want to make an effort to get a better life and he wants you stuck with him. It's the only reason he could be keeping you out of school.

Also, your parents won't be able to provide for you for ever. When you have to work to provide for your kids (because he obviously won't) the more education you have is better, you'll have a better job with a good education. Take the opportunity your parents are giving you to study, many single young moms don't have that chance.

Being with this man now you'll probably end up broke and alone with 2 kids. Make a better life for you and the little ones.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

That doesnt sound like love, that sounds like fear. you are fearful and afraid. You should not use the kids as an excuse to keep a sorry man. The reason he is so insecure is because he knows he doesnt want to change and he knows he would flip if he knew you were with someone. He is using his power to keep you fearful of any future mishaps to bring you closer. It seems to be working and your wasting alot of valauble time with this man. Men will only change for themselves, and not for anyone else. If he's not making any effort to stay out of jail and support his kids, you know what to do. Don't be afraid, move far away.

Answer 5

I knew the answer to this question after reading the first sentence! You should move on. No amount of love should justify you staying with someone that is not very supportive and someone that is obviously as selfish as he is. Move on and find someone that is able and willing to help you give those babies the best life possible. You also need to find someone that supports your dreams and desires. You deserve a chance to pursue the things you want in life.

Answer 6

This is a classic good girl bad boy realtionship Bad boys ain't nothing but trouble and if he's in jail all the time how can he be there for you and your kids and you said when he's not in jail he's still not there for you i know you love him but dont put yourself through that torture and pain just for the kids i think you should kick him to the curb

Answer 7

Start a new life. He just wants to control you. Move on and get your education.He won't even support his kids and can't stay out of jail. What's to love about him?

Answer 8

You love him very much but he's a selfish individual. If he wasn't selfish he'd put you and the children first and wouldn't bounce in and out of jail so often. Go to school so that when he does leave because he will someday by choice or prison most likely....you can provide for your children.

Answer 9

Well, you know the answer deep down.
I think I know what it is.
But I don't know your beliefs.
I bet that your children come first, right?
They may have to come "only" to be truly put first.
Your staying miserable over this is only going to hurt them.
It will mess with your life, mess with your career, mess with your ability to be happy and be a loving mother, when that's what they need!
You may have to sacrifice the father for the better of the children.
He's the one demanding you to sacrifice your future, and the children's futures, for him.
Isn't that just awful of him to do to you all?

Answer 10

I have to say that I think you should leave him. Do you really love him or are you just scared of the thought of being alone with two children? You and your children deserve better than you be treated like his property. You deserve the best that any man can offer and it appears to me that you are not getting it.