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At my age i kno I'm too young to think about marriage and kids. but all of my friends are either married, getting married, have kids or are having kids. It seems like everyone around me is growing up and im stuck being the person who doesnt know what they want in life.

I have never ever had a serious relationship, never longer then 2 months. I guess I just can't help but wonder if things other then jobs and money work out for me?...

Everyone always says its because the right one is out there, and your supposed to be available for when he comes around, and all these wrong guys that you are meeting are making it easier for you too tell when the right guy does come around......

2007-07-24 06:01:13 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Building a life around a guy is a pitiful life, the life not you. Life has to be built around us and we need to go from dependent, to independent, before we go to interdependent. People try to jump a stage instead of finding interests, study somethings, find out what we're good at, who we really are. live alone, get to know how we cope, get emotional maturity, which is learn about emotions or Emotional Intelligence. They should have something on that on line. Shouldn't a woman be a woman and a man a man before they get hitched or at least be working on something? A better idea is to have a lot of interests so we're interesting and get an interesting person. A clinging vine sucks us dry. If we feel empty now, no one can fill us, we have to learn how to do that ourselves to be independent emotionally or else emotions will run us behind the scenes and we won't be in charge at all. Then we can guide our own life and it won't be in anyone else's hands.

2007-07-24 06:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by hb12 7 · 0 0

Ok, I actually read 2 articles on this and heard on the radio that when women see everyone (mainly their girlfriends) around them are getting married and having kids they usually fall into the trap of wanting the same thing but end up with the wrong guy. My advice is to make yourself more approachable (crack a smile at a few guys you're attracted to here and there) go on a few dates and see what you like. If that's you in the picture, you still look young (like me) and since it's the summer time you'd like to spend time with someone. It's understandable and I don't think there's too much of a problem here honestly.

2007-07-24 13:08:23 · answer #2 · answered by Class 4 · 0 0

You just have to have faith and not think so much. Good things will come your way in time. Don't stress out about it. Be yourself, follow your heart, make good decisions and you will be fine. You're 19 right? So am I. Let me tell you, being in a serious relationship this young isn't all its cracked up to be. I'm engaged and it has been a bumpy ride. Most of the time things are great, but there are times when I question if we are meant to be together. Just chill for now. You're young and you deserve to live that up. Take one step at a time.

2007-07-24 13:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

These aren't issues that are going to stick around. Each year will bring something different and you will know when something is right or wrong for you.

You may want to actually step back from the dating scene if it's becoming burdensome, take some time to understand yourself better and fulfill some of your dreams, marriage and kids and all that stuff will wait.

2007-07-24 13:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by ES 2 · 0 0

In my case, I chose that life. At 13 (now 30) I decided I didn't want a significant other, didn't want kids.
I planned my life in that direction. I have traveled the world, done things people dream of.
I have lovers and Friends I can count on.

Enjoy life now, while you're young and free. Store up memories for later. Don't worry about Mr. Right, if there is one, he will show up in his own good time.

2007-07-24 13:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0 0

You have to do what is right for yourself in reality not what you think you should be doing or what everyone else is doing. You dont have to rush into or force these things to happen. Let them happen naturally. I didn't. I told myself the same things your telling yourself and ended up regretting it. I got a divorce and am still suffering for it today. When you do make a decision to date someone listen to your instincts they are usually right. If you have a bad feeling about someone it's probably for a reason. Just keep your head up and stay positive. Mr. Right is out there just be patient hon.

2007-07-24 13:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by IIIxKrazy 3 · 1 0

Not to worry. It'll work out for you but it takes time. I'm 26 almost 27 and have been married for almost a year. Hubby and I met when I was looking at buying a car...it was a total fluke I wasn't even going to go to the appointment to see the car, but something told me to go, and I did and we were engaged after 5 months of dating and married a year after we got engaged. I'm happy! :-) The funny part is, prior to meeting my hubby I was thinking I might never get married. It'll happen for you.

2007-07-24 13:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0 0

How old are you?

STarting to soon is a bad idea watch your friends lives as they are destoryed due to lack of education and expect the Governement to take care of them and the friends they make will likely be criminals.

The grass is always greener over there, but it just doesn't work that way.

2007-07-24 13:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Everyone is right. Don't hurry up and marry the wrong guy because then you'll be tooken when the right guy comes. You have plenty of time.

2007-07-24 13:06:42 · answer #9 · answered by MissTT 3 · 0 0

Good, God, kid! You really need help. Life is not one hole after another. You sound so depressed I would suggest serious counseling.

Look, you're only 19. Your future has yet to be determined. You need find direction and go for it.

2007-07-24 13:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 0 0

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