How do you get a stubborn 2 year old to finally use the potty!?

Question

I've tried giving treats for # 1 and # 2, I've created a potty time song and I've tried to make him feel embarrased by saying, "Peuwwww, man you are stinky" and "Poop is gross!!"

Nothing. Any suggestions?

By the way, My statements to him are said in the most loveing, motherly way possible!

Answer 1

Boys are definitely hard to potty train! However, my friend told me about a smarter way to potty train using The Potty Stool http://www.thepottystool.com I was skeptical the stool would make a difference but I never would have guessed how well it works! I think it really helps boys to pee standing up so they can see what is happening and connect their sensations.
The Potty Stool allows boys to pee standing up and accurately, right into the toilet with stable handles to hold onto.

I realized later that my kids really wanted to imitate what they saw adults doing and were very determined to mimic correct toilet use.

This really is the greatest thing to happen to potty training. I like that I don't have to use or clean a floor potty and I love that my kids are safe and never have to touch the toilet with their hands! My kids just get right up to the toilet on their own.

The best part is that kids use it for years. Hope this helps you.

Answer 2

saying those things helps him to understand that poop is yukky, but it doesn't help him understand why he should go on the toilet. Boys take longer to potty train than girls....my step son was 5 before he was completely trained. My little girl now is 18 months and she loves using the potty. Some kids don't like the toilet and if you try to make them go, they will refuse. Maybe when you go the the bathroom take him with you and tell him what you are doing and say that you are a big girl for going on the potty. Show him if you went #1 or #2 and then he will see where it is suppose to go. I started training my little girl by putting her on the toilet and then filling up the bathtub with water for her bath. The sound of the water made her pee and then i started clapping and saying "yeaaaaaa Jaden". She loves it when people cheer her on. Every child is different. Sometimes she doesn't like to go on the potty, so I don't push it, but sometimes she goes into the bathroom herself and I ask her if she would like to go potty and she puts her toilet seat on top of the big one and takes her pants off. You will get it...it just takes time

Answer 3

At two, he isn't stubborn, he's just not quite ready. My friend really pushed her two boys to be potty-trained early and as a result has a nearly 6 year old who still has accidents.

Since it's summer, keep him naked if you can. Works wonders. Also, I've heard from many, many people to just switch to underwear cold turkey and let child have a couple accidents to figure it out.

I know you probably made your comments in a funny way, but it might still make him feel self-conscious and even more reluctant to use the potty.

Answer 4

Don't make him feel like his bodily functions are gross! Why would he want to expose that to the world if you are telling him that it's gross? Also, let him take the lead. A child will simply not potty train until they are ready, no matter what you do! The best thing is to not make a big deal of it, and let him think that it's his idea, don't push, don't beg, don't do anything. Reward him when he does, but think nothing of it when he doesn't. Once he realizes that it's up to him, he will have the confidence he needs to make the desicion on his own.

Answer 5

girl,

i have 3 boys , and my eldest didn't do it til he was 3

my 2 .5 year old just doesn't like it, he says mommy peeps and poops but he asks for his diaper and will hold it in all day until he gets his diaper

its crazy but what are you gonna do

traumatize him over it???

I just gave up and will try again in a few months

one thing that does help is the big boy underpants

they feel it better

Meg

Answer 6

Be more patient is all I can suggest. My ex's boy was almost 5 before he FINALLY started using the potty. They will go when they are ready and not a moment before.

Answer 7

BACK OFF.

The thing about potty training is that a child has to be 100% in control of their toileting. Otherwise, they aren't really trained at all.

For a child to become fully toilet trained, they have to be physically, emotionally and intellectually ready to be 100% in control of their toileting. Physical readiness means they have to be able to hold their pee and poop in and then let go of them at will, they have to be able to get on & off the toilet without help, they have to be able to undress and dress themselves without help, and they have to have the speech capacity to tell you that they need to go and with what amount of urgency (for times they are in public or somewhere they don't know where the bathroom is).

Intellectual readiness includes knowing where pee/poop goes, knowing the importance of cleanliness, knowing how long they can hold pee/poop before it's too late to get to the toilet, etc.

Emotional readiness includes really wanting to be in control over that aspect of their lives.

Two-year-olds RARELY have everything they need in place to be toilet trained. Oh, it does happen, but it's just not all that common. Now, my middle kid was 2 when she trained and she trained in 3 days, pretty much all by herself. As soon as she understood that she could be free of scratchy, smelly paper diapers and wear soft, cotton undies, she was incredibly motivated and I didn't have to do hardly anything to get her to use the toilet. My oldest and youngest (one boy, one girl) were three and a half when they trained. They were slower for various reasons. We tried to train the oldest at 2 because he was interested in learning, but then realized that we'd never taught him how to dress himself, so we had to do that, first. Then he got bored with all of it and just didn't want to use the toilet because it took him away from the toys and books and companionship that he really enjoyed. It just took a while for him to be emotionally and intellectually ready to do it.

The youngest got it physcially and intellectually sooner, but she didn't want to give up being the baby. When she decided she didn't want to be a baby any more, she trained herself in about a day. Of course, we nudged her along a little bit by not letting her do the things her older siblings did because she was the "baby" and they were the "big kids," but it was her idea and totally her timing.

You're pressuring your kid, more than likely before he's ready. The more pressure you put on him, the longer it's going to take. Back off. Stop insulting him about stuff he can't help -- EVERYbody gets stinky and EVERYbody has to poop. Shaming him about it isn't going to help him use the toilet, because he has to THINK about using the toilet at this point.

Instead, praise him when he does big-boy things. Tell him he's in charge of his pee and poop and when he's ready to leave them in the toilet where they belong, you'll help him learn to do it. But don't say that every day. Say it like once a week.

Answer 8

You can only keep trying,He will stop when he is ready.