is that a common condition? if i have sex or actually even kiss a girl or anything i feel incredibly guilty to my mom, and my grandparents. i know it sounds weird but im dead serious. i feel like im being very disgusting and betraying my mother and my family. my family is very liberal and has always encouraged me to seek relationships with women, i dont know why i have this problem? is this a normal thing or am i screwed up?
*i become extremely guilty after any encounter with a woman and sometimes even call my mother and tell her that im a horrible son and dont deserve a good mother (never tell her why though she just thinks im crazy)
2007-07-24 05:47:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think this needs a counselor to solve. You definately sound like you have some self esteem issues that need to be resolved.
2007-07-24 05:50:25 · answer #1 · answered by Deana S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should not be feeling guilty about your actions. Guilt will not help to erase your actions However, if the act of oral sex goes against your morals and your religious viewpoints, do not continue with it. From my viewpoint, you are still a virgin since there has been no penetration, but I don't truly understand the religious aspects of it. Do not continue to feel that you are promiscuous or guilty. You are neither. However, you do need to dump this guy who is encouraging you to do things you are not ready for. Take this as a valuable experience and I hope you find someone who will truly love and appreciate you.
2016-05-17 09:30:49 · answer #2 · answered by alyce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally if you are a very religious person or grew up in a family where sexuality was repressed or any kind of situation like that, it would be fairly typical to feel guilt after masturbation and any kind of intimate encounter with another individual. A lot of this might be tied to a fear of intimacy or a confidence issue.
If it bothers you so much that you call your mother, I'd recommend some kind of counseling, because that behavior, and understand I'm not trying to be judgmental, is a little disturbing. Kind of reminds me of Ed Gein.
2007-07-24 06:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by Roger W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I really hope you get counseling. If you are feeling guilty after having a perfectly natural relationship with someone, I am concerned there are some very "hidden" issues you are dealing with. I am surprised your family has not discussed this with you. It would concern me deeply if my son called me to express guilt after such things. I know this sounds crazy but could you have confused gender issues?? Calling your mom and such sounds a lot like homosexual issues that are surpressed. I work around a lot of gay people and that is a common issue many of them have had. No matter what, please seek help. There are all types of free services available. Good luck.
2007-07-24 05:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by jtcurry58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just something you're gonna have to get over. If you feel so guilty then dont have sex. Or, have sex a lot and get over it. Sex helps release stress. Take advantage of that plus. You're not a bad son, you're not disgusting...you're a male and you have needs and wants that you can't control. How old are you? Think about your morals and follow them. Basically, you're thinking too much. Loosen up! At least you're gettin some right?
2007-07-24 05:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age, this certainly is a problem. As a doctor, you should know that all kinds of illnesses exist. You need help from a psychologist or counselor to determine why you feel this way and to come to terms with your guilt. You obviously haven't been able to do this alone, but just as you can't diagnose our physical illnesses by computer, neither can we help you in this way. So, see an expert and get on your way to living a normal life.
2007-07-24 05:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me your parents and grandparents brainwashed you as a child to think these things are wrong.
As long as the sex and kissing is not with a minor and is consensual, there is absoloutley nothing to be ashamed about. Millions of people do it every day.
You should seek therapy for this.
2007-07-24 06:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling...there's some underlying reason that sex triggers guilt in you. Find out what it is so you can move forward and enjoy the experiences.
As long as you've had consensual, 'safe' sex with an available person, there should be no reason for guilt...it's when force is used or cheating occurs (for example) that guilt should be involved.
2007-07-24 05:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a good thing if it doesn't pass with time. It will become difficult to have a meaningful relationship with a woman if this persists. A counselor is a good idea if it does not go away, but give it some time first.
2007-07-24 05:52:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry theres nothing to be ashamed of.Its a natural part of life they both have done this and im sure they would mind.They would think worse of you if you didn't.There are other options maybe i mean this in the nicest possible way you may be gay or are not intimate witht the right girl.
2007-07-24 05:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex. You have issues. Can you imagine what this is doing to the women? Get some therapy.****Oh my god people it is NOT normal to feel guilty about sex. As long as you are doing it with someone you love and care about, it should make you happy. It is a way of showing your partner that you love him/her.
2007-07-24 05:52:29 · answer #11 · answered by beautifulirishgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋