What is the problem?

Question

I have a hard time keeping a relationship, im a workaholic, some females are very needy but in order to make it some times you have to go the extra mile... i make 6k per month and have a nice place, but i din't get here by working a 9-5 job, they don't get it, so they just walk away... what is the problem, why can females just support us in our carrers.....

Answer 1

I completely undertand where you are coming from!
When you do have some time off, do you take the time to spend with her? It's hard to maintain a relationship if there's no communication much less if there is no interaction. There are some girls who have to have attention, they are the ones tha are also high maintainence. Stay away from those girls. When finding someone to date, explain your work situation. This will keep you away from un-needed bad and broken relationships. Find a woman that works, too. SHe'll be more likely to understand.
Once my boyfriend started working full time and going full time to school, he began to realize why I was so tired when we went out late or when I just wanted to relax at the house. I was working more than full time, had a volunteer job and attending school. When the weekends came, I really wanted to do something early together and catch up on sleep. He now realizes he was wrong in pushing me to do things even though I was physically exhausted. (I was working to barely make ends meat, in a warehouse.)
Basically, what I'm trying to say is: find a woman who will understand your lifestyle.You obviously like to keep busy and would like some support from your woman. Your woman needs to be somewhat independent and not someone who needs affirmation every 10 minutes.
There aren't very many women like that anymore. . .

Answer 2

When a woman gets into a relationship she does not want to be alone all of the time. Relationships are hard work you can not expect a woman to just wait around on you. It sounds like you already have a nice house and with the money you make you should have money saved back so take a little time for your woman. While money is nice to have it is not every thing.

Answer 3

I'd say your number one problem is that you have an "us vs. them" mentality when you think of females. "Why can't THEY support US in OUR careers."
You've basically been dating the wrong women, I'd guess. You date women who need you around and who would like to spend a lot of time with you. Work and money are probably not that important to them. Just security and knowing that you enjoy their company and care about them.
I know plenty of women who like to work, who like their boyfriend/husband to work. They have their own hobbies away from their bf/husband and they don't need to be around their man that often to be happy in the relationship. You need to find this independent woman and when you find her, you may STILL need to make a compromise and find a way not to work so hard. Living on a little less a month or finding a way to make this much money in less time. Something. But even the most independent of women needs to SEE that you enjoy spending time with her and that can only proved by your actions. Don't define yourself by your work.

Answer 4

You've admitted to being a workaholic and this is hard for females to accept. If you don't set any time aside for them they don't feel important to you. If you are setting time aside and they still need more then that's their fault. Finding that balance varies from person to person. You ask why they can't support your career but are you supporting her emotional needs?
I left a relationship because the mighty dollar ruled his life. Sure I had the best of everything but not the emotional support I needed. The material things didn't matter. I walked from it all and he didn't get it either....funny though he gets it now with his new girl.

Answer 5

You need to re-evaluate the type of woman you are looking for. You need an independent woman that does not need a man around 24/7, but will still love and support you and appreciate the quality time you guys share. They are out there you just need to adjust your preference in women.

Answer 6

Well I'm only 15 and I don't think they should just leave you. That's wrong. You could try to get some time off to spend with your significant other. Like ask your boss for a vacation. My dad is a repoman. He finds time to spend with me. Like we go for bike rides at night. We watch movies on the weekends. And sometimes we go places together. You can try to find sometime in your schedule to spend time with your significant other. It's the only possible thing to do. Well have fun.

Answer 7

It's true. Women are needy and want to see you as much as possible. These women must be very young and inexperienced. They need a hobby! Find yourself a nice older woman who understands you. Not necessarily one of those career-driven women, just someone who is mature and gets it!

Answer 8

Just like you..we want attention. Attention that most men cant give workn all the time. We support guys like you and we are proud, but we want some time with our man... You should enjoy life and not work so much...Everything cant revolve around you..Im sorry but its true. Maybe the girls that you have dated feel like they are at your beck and call. Spend some time with the next woman you date. Goodluck

Answer 9

Not all of us are completely oblivious to the fact that having more money means spending more time at work. Keep looking, you will find one :)

Answer 10

Girls like to be together. Just spend some quality time with her and talk to her even on te phone and she will be happy.