i was going out with this guy but i broke up with him then we got back together but then i broke up with him for good, but the problem is i still like him, i broke up with him because he smoked and was keeping it a secret from me and then i found out, but i still liked him. anyways
the point is i dunno if he still smokes, so should i get back together with him or not?? i know it's wrong, he was just a good bf and i still like him and he likes me. Help!!
thanxz
much appricated
blondi girl~
2007-07-24 05:17:49 · 24 answers · asked by [ blondi ♥ ] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If smoking is the only vice he has, I don't see any other reason why you must not get back with him. About his hiding it from you, it may mean one of these two things:
1. He couldn't quit smoking but he didn't want to lose you.
2. You're not worth quitting smoking.
And there are two ways to deal with this:
1. Get back to him only and only after making him promise that he quits smoking. If he can't promise that he will quit, don't get back to him. This is better than making him pretend that he quit when he didn't.
2. Get back to him and just take him for who he is, smoking and all.
If you both like each other so much, you both will find a way out of this.
One of the reasons I quit smoking is for my wife.
2007-08-01 00:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Le Jazzfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If smoking is the only prob with him, then yeah. Just make some compromises, like that he don't smoke around you. If he continues, then that means he don't repect u enough to compromise so just find someone better! But if he truely loves you he should at least stop smoking around you, or quit entirely! Don't take ANY crape from guys, there are plenty of the out there who would treat you better if need be!
2007-07-24 12:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Keira Matsura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a confused person! Work out what you want in life. Then set a course for it. Together/apart/together/apart... so much like a yo-yo or lego blocks. Stop being silly. Stand up for your principles. Do not settle for this kind of rot. Today it is smoking. What if in the future he wants to see other babes? Will you compromise to that too? Give him a miss and get to know yourself.
Cheers
Lisa
2007-08-01 10:43:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him quit. There are medications that work better than nicotine pills. Thats what your trying to get off. If he can't handle like without drugs, you should raise yourself to deserve better, if you can. Otherwise you'll have to settle, this and then that. That's how I feel, anyway. You know your kids will smoke if it goes that far. What a legacy. Are you going down or up? Boy, I'm rough, aren't I? Women already outlive men, what's a few more years alone with a dead husband. You can't marry someone you don't go out with, I always figured, or get pregnant.
2007-07-24 12:31:48 · answer #4 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me that doesnt really sound like a good enough reason to break up,yeah i know smoking isnt good for you but its not really a reason to break up. Get back with him and just tell him not to smoke around you and chew some gum or use a mint or something after. But if you are talking drugs id stay away from him.
2007-08-01 07:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Leesha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him that you still like him, but he has to stop smoking if he wants the two of you to be together again.. give him an ultimatum.. it's not that big of a deal (him smoking and keeping it from you), but the point is, he lied to you.. just talk things out.. if he really values you more than anything, he would do whatever it takes to win you back..
2007-08-01 09:09:22 · answer #6 · answered by sweet sexy thing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is he smoking? If it's drugs stay away. If it's cigs then compromise. Tell him he can't smoke around you and that he has to brush his teeth, wash his hands and chew gum before he kisses you or even comes over. Eventually he'll get tired of the regimen and quit smoking.
2007-08-01 01:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blondi Girl, if smoking is a big deal, then don lower ur standards, but there r compromises to be made, u have to ask him, if yes and its a problem for u then, u got to try give it up, but if u like someone at times u gots to try overlook certain things, although for me smoking is a no-no, its up to u , but u gots to ask him.
2007-08-01 10:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you still like him, but you don't like the fact that he smokes. Support him into thinking the truth, by telling him that smoking will kill him, and if he dies it will brake your heart. If he still feels the same way about you, he will start trying to quit.
2007-08-01 12:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by tinkertot79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are too young to have a bf if you broke over such a small issue.
2007-08-01 09:54:09 · answer #10 · answered by amanda k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋