Sometimes I wish I would have had them a little closer together so they would atleast be in the same school at the same time. They way our shcools are set up is headstart, elementary, jr high, and high school are all in different buildings in different areas of our city. My kids will not be in the same building at the same time ever. It scares me that they will be all alone in school. Do you think that matters?
2007-07-24 04:18:20 · 16 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Not really. It is nice to have a sibling close by, but the older they get the less the age difference will matter. My oldest brother is 11 years and 11 months older than I am and we are great friends and very close. My other brother was 23 months older and we fought like cats and dogs our entire childhood, but grew up to be close. I'm sure your kids will just be glad to have each other when they grow up and age won't matter at all.
2007-07-24 04:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Aloe-ish-us 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? In what way? Of course everything matters, but it doesn't have to be a negative. The biggest impact of having them 4 years apart is on you. You'll have to do more ferrying around because they'll only be in school together one year before the older one is off to middle school and high school. Even if they were only 2 years apart they'd still be "all alone" in school because they'd be in different grades. Chances are good they wouldn't even see each other during the school day because they'd have different lunch times, PE times, etc.
If anything, this will allow them each to develop their own identities and friends and not always be in the shadow of another sibling.
I come from a large family of 9 kids and I can tell you, spacing does NOT make a difference on whether the kids will be friends down the road. Personality is the biggest factor. Kids who have a sibling close in age often think it was the age gap, but I don't believe that. How to explain the families like mine where the oldest and youngest the closest desite a 12 year age difference? Or the two who are 18 months apart and fight like demons? Personality.
So I would encourage the kids to be kind to each other, never allow teasing or bullying, and let them each shine in their own unique talents and not be lumped together as "the kids"
2007-07-24 04:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there are pros and cons to having kids close together and having them further apart. My closest sibling was six years older than me, then there was one that was eight years older and one that was twelve years older. But the fact is, we rarely ever fought and we got along so well. We've always been really good friends. I think there was less competition between us because we were different ages, so we just looked out for each other and helped one another out all the time. I was the only one at my school because of the age difference, but I never even realized it, because I was so used to it. It was kind of nice too, because then the teachers didn't compare me to siblings they had taught in the past or anything... I was my own individual person. Your kids are going to be just fine!
2007-07-24 04:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by katesomes84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I are 4 year apart and we were in the same school once for a year and that was in elementary school. We ended up having different friends and it was no big deal. It makes you have your own personality. If you are too close in age you feel like you are living in your siblings shadow which gets annoying.
2007-07-24 07:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Pixi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think it's too far apart. i know at times when there's only been one child for a long time. sometimes jealousy develops. but with u, the age difference. that can help if there is jealousy and even there isn't. yr 4 yr old can take part. maybe not a big part. but can still help in some ways with sibbling. and that's very important. and the baby will know this and see this as time goes on. and in a way teach the oldest responsibility and protectiveness over it's younger sibling....
best of luck for u and yr family,,,,,,,,,,,,,,star
2007-07-24 04:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by star 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because this gives them the opportunity to develop as individuals, instead of being "
2007-07-24 06:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it doesent matter your kids will spend most of the time together at the house while in school they will feel free from each other thats how i feel i have a smaller brother im in high school and he is in jr high but everybody has to make their life but when get home from school we spend the rest of the day chilling with each other
2007-07-24 04:24:47 · answer #7 · answered by scarface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boys are almost 15 and almost 4 so no that is not to far apart. I'm sure the 4 yr old is a great helper for you to! they will be close no matter what.
2007-07-24 04:23:44 · answer #8 · answered by Bambam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It doesn't matter. All that matters is that they are healthy and happy. My twins are 15 and I have a 6 month old and I am pregnant again......... as long as they are loved they will be fine.
2007-07-24 04:32:50 · answer #9 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! There is a 14 year difference between me
and my younger brother....I was about out of school when he started. No biggie, we all make our own friends!
2007-07-24 04:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋