Isnt it selfish for him to accept someone elses love knowing the truth that he's taken? How will he choose?
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2007-07-24 04:14:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Selfish? hmmm.. well i dont know. While its true that he's taken, its not within his control to choose who he falls in love with and who he doesnt. When he decided to get together with his girlfriend, he would not have been able to know that he would fall in love with someone else in the future.
Anyways, has he really fallen in love with someone else, or is it just a crush? If his relationship is serious, a mere crush wont get in his way.
Plus, i also believe there is a difference between falling in love and loving. And that difference is choice. If he chooses to love someone besides his girlfriend, that may be selfish. But that begs the question of does he love his girlfriend to begin with?
2007-07-24 04:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Menon R 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am not going to reference this directly to you. I am not going say to that the guy never loved his girlfriend. Life happens. No relationship is perfect. Just because he happens to have fallen in love with someone else does not mean that he didn't care for his girlfriend at one point. However, this other person moved him more. To me, it is how he handles the situation. Like several other responses, loves happen. Sometimes it is quick other times it is slow burning. And I can say from experience that it hurts like hell when you are not loved back. Is it selfish, no, not really. Is it selfish to want to be happy? It will be selfish if he is seeing this other person and still seeing his girlfriend. And "taken". Let's be real. I believe no one is taken until they have walked down the aisle and made a promise to be with one another until death do they part. Have dignity and the girl needs to let him go. She needs to choose, don't leave it up to him. Refuse to be second choice.
2007-07-24 04:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by hottie_jolie420 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that you can't help who you fall in love with. If you have a girlfriend but someone else is there and does for you in a way that you would love them it isn't necessarily selfish. Yes you have taken in the truths of your partner but the heart doesn't lie. When I was with my child's father he was my boyfriend at the time but another guy was there for me and doing more for me my child's father could ever do. Inside it felt wrong to love another man but the heart doesn't lie. In the end when you have to choose your heart does the choosing for you. You know who you'd wake up and want to see and who you'd want to hang out with.. my advice is foolow your heart.
2007-07-24 04:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by mamas_love2u 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yes he can fall in love with somebody else.It is selfish but think about it the reason why he is with someone is probably for selfish reasons. Maybe he like that something she does and just their because no one else has caught his eye.
2007-07-24 04:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by Deneice C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is dating someone and falls in love with someone else, then he is not in love with the person he is dating. If he's in love with the someone else, he will leave his girlfriend for her. People choose who they love the most and are closest to.
2007-07-24 04:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Rachel The Great ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if ya wonna hear this but my answer...is yes cuz even tho he has a gf that really doesn't STOP him 4 getting 2 know other girls, talking 2 them, flirting with them, smiling at them (especially when is gf isn't around)....and in the end he will still get the girl he loves (i know that sounds really cheezy but itz true)
2007-07-24 04:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes people fall out of love. Yes, it's wrong while you are still dating the other person, but it happens. He needs to end it with his girlfriend ASAP so she doesn't continue to get hurt, or he needs to tell her at least so she can decide if she wants to leave or for some strange reason, put up with it. He really needs to examine each relationship and decide which one is really better, who he really loves more, and who he wants to spend his time with.
2007-07-24 04:19:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lyndsay P 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If a guy has considered a new girl over his current one, one of two things has happened:
1: The guy is trying to play the girls.
2: The relationship he is in is not fulfilling his needs, so he becomes a window shopper. Perhaps fixing the current relationship would take the second girl out of the picture?
2007-07-24 04:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by In flu3nce 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Sometimes, love becomes traitor and unpredictable that it don't realize that it might hurt other people's feelings and its hard to fight what your heart tells you, you can't do anything of it but to accept and understand that's what love's all about......that's why you can't blame your boyfriend if he falls in love with someone else because love can't lie..........
2007-07-24 04:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Beverly Anne N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My girlfriend is of the opinion that he will choose according to breast size.
Myself, I think you could easily turn the balance by shaking that thing. Breast size is not as important as some people think.
On the other hand, you could let your eyes rove AND LET HIM SEE & FEEL how you have felt. Give him a dose of his own medicine.
2007-07-24 04:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋